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Old 11-23-2012, 02:02 PM
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I just need to vent to those that will understand. My uncle told me the other day that he doesn't understand why I didn't get rid of my dogs when I lost my job in Jan and then in April. I tried to explain to him that it really didn't seem like a choice for me. I didn't get my dogs to just have while things were good, I got them as companions to help me with my depression and mental issues due to my ex taking my son from me. I asked him if he would sell one of his kids if things got really bad, he tried to tell me its not the same thing and that that was stupid. I tried to no avail to explain that it is. They are my furry kids. I put all the money I am getting from my online business to care for them since I have family that is gracious enough to care for me.

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People that don't really love animals, have no idea how you feel, and you can never make them understand. I have family and friends that don't understand why I have 3 dogs and 3 birds. If things get really tight with money, which has happened to us before, I didn't even think of giving them away.
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I can sympathize, I had gone through a similar situation when I was younger. I'm 26 now, but in my early 20's when my ex and I split, I was only able to take one of my dogs as I knew I couldn't care for the others; as my beloved job at the Doggy Daycare had ended also when they went out of business. =( It was a really rough time for me- to lose my relationship, my home, my furkids AND my job.. literally within one day. I can say though the experience has made me able to handle just about anything else life throws at me. Fortunately my ex and I have remained wonderful friends and I still see my "stepchildren" on occasion. =D
My best advice is to hold on to your babies as long as you can, hug them and love them; but no matter what put their needs first. It's hard to admit when you aren't able to care for them; if there comes a point where one can't afford proper nutrition and medical attention when needed, THAT is when it's time to make arrangements for someone else who can offer these things to step in. There's no shame in asking for help; and though heartbreaking, sometimes the most compassionate thing is to let go. The hardest part is admitting it to yourself, I think. That was my experience anyway. I wish you the best in coping with everything and if you ever want to just vent, feel free to PM me. <3
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I am sorry to hear about your son. I would literally live on the streets before I would give up my animals, so I know exactly how you feel. I really hope your online business takes off and 2013 is a better year for you.
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Aww girl, seems like you are dealt one obstacle after another. I know you'll be
ok. You are right to keep your dogs, you've committed to them, you care for
them, and they provide much needed love and affection. Everyone goes through
rough times, but it will be temporary, you will get yourself back up, I believe in
you. Don't worry so much about what people say, just do your best and don't
stop moving forward, don't give up. Hugs.
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People that don't really love animals, have no idea how you feel, and you can never make them understand. I have family and friends that don't understand why I have 3 dogs and 3 birds. If things get really tight with money, which has happened to us before, I didn't even think of giving them away.
He and my aunt both claim to love animals. But after hearing that they have given away animal just because they can't get them trained (after living here for 3 months the problem is them not the pets) they get rid of them I'm starting to wonder if they really do or just want pets as posessions.

Thanks. I've sold of stuff and done odd jobs for friends to make money for food and stuff for the dogs. I honestly dont see them as a burden but a reason to keep pushing forward.

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I can sympathize, I had gone through a similar situation when I was younger. I'm 26 now, but in my early 20's when my ex and I split, I was only able to take one of my dogs as I knew I couldn't care for the others; as my beloved job at the Doggy Daycare had ended also when they went out of business. =( It was a really rough time for me- to lose my relationship, my home, my furkids AND my job.. literally within one day. I can say though the experience has made me able to handle just about anything else life throws at me. Fortunately my ex and I have remained wonderful friends and I still see my "stepchildren" on occasion. =D
My best advice is to hold on to your babies as long as you can, hug them and love them; but no matter what put their needs first. It's hard to admit when you aren't able to care for them; if there comes a point where one can't afford proper nutrition and medical attention when needed, THAT is when it's time to make arrangements for someone else who can offer these things to step in. There's no shame in asking for help; and though heartbreaking, sometimes the most compassionate thing is to let go. The hardest part is admitting it to yourself, I think. That was my experience anyway. I wish you the best in coping with everything and if you ever want to just vent, feel free to PM me. <3
I don't know if I could handle loosing all that at once. It is great that you still get to see them.

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I am sorry to hear about your son. I would literally live on the streets before I would give up my animals, so I know exactly how you feel. I really hope your online business takes off and 2013 is a better year for you.
I would too, which really was the plan there for awhile, luckily my aunt too us in. I hope so too 2012 hasn't been that great.

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Aww girl, seems like you are dealt one obstacle after another. I know you'll be
ok. You are right to keep your dogs, you've committed to them, you care for
them, and they provide much needed love and affection. Everyone goes through
rough times, but it will be temporary, you will get yourself back up, I believe in
you. Don't worry so much about what people say, just do your best and don't
stop moving forward, don't give up. Hugs.
Thanks for the words of encouragement. It seems like 2012 was ment to be a great test for my whole family. Between family members passing (the most recent and harsh being my younger brother that was killed in a motorcycle accident last week when a SUV cut him off) and job/house/court issues I'm thinking things can't honestly get worse (knock on wood). If I can make it the rest of the year without everything falling apart I'll be happy.
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Kat is right, there definitely is no shame in asking for help.
I've helped a woman once who was in an abusive relationship, wanted to leave
her bf, but only place to go was the women's shelter, so she had no place for
the dog. Instead of bringing it to the pound, she asked for help online, for
someone to take her Boxer mix for a few months while she's at the shelter
looking for a job. So I took the dog. She ran away from the bf, stayed at the
shelter, then found a job, then found a place to rent, then got somewhat stable,
then came to take her dog back from me. Her dog was also abused, so all this
time I worked with the dog days on end, spent a fortune on food, vet care,
accessories, etc, and I can honestly tell you IT FELT GOOD! It felt so good to
see the reunion between this woman and her dog, who she obviously loved very
much, and no matter what life threw her way did not want to part with. I will
never forget that. It goes to show that when there is a will, there is always a
way. Just work hard at getting yourself to feel better so you could go out there
work, and take care of yourself and your fur kids. Use them as motivation,
especially on the darker days.
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Thanks for the words of encouragement. It seems like 2012 was ment to be a great test for my whole family. Between family members passing (the most recent had harsh being my younger brother that was killed in a motorcycle accident last week when a SUV cut him off) and job/house/court issues I'm thinking things can't honestly get worse (knock on wood). If I can make it the rest of the year without everything falling apart I'll be happy.


I'm so very sorry about your brother. I had no idea. Hugs.
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