Don't feel embarrassed! It's not a reflection on you or your parenting! Also don't feel helpless, you can control this. You have all the resources and all the power. YOU get to decide what is acceptable and what isn't. Oh b*tches!!! Girls can be so temperamental once they hit the teens/ adulthood! Boys too, but more those b*tchy girls! They start feeling confident enough to exert themselves, and sometimes physically(Usually when they feel stressed, fearful, threatened, annoyed.). Some dogs just require more space to feel comfortable than others, and getting in a dogs face is a threat in doglish! Ugh... There are lots of ways for you to address the issue. I have a time out spot for naughty or antisocial behavior that works very well. Most dogs hate being sent away from you, even for a few minutes! When I see my corgi girl starting to get annoyed(She is really good with children, but my best friends little boy can test any dogs patience. She also really does not like most other dogs.), I tell her to "Go to your room!". I used to walk her to it, but now she goes right in herself. Sometimes if she has had enough she will put herself in there. Lol It taught her she needs to WALK AWAY when she is frustrated, and under no circumstance will we allow any violence of any kind! After a little bit we let her come back, if she still acts tense, gets in a dogs face, starts following intently, with her head down, staring like she will burn a hole in the other dogs neck(Ours is mostly dog dog issues, all of our family and friends have dogs that come visit.) ... right back out! She hates being sent away worse than her personal feelings of wanting to destroy other intruder dogs. Lol Most of the time she is the worst when the other dogs come near ME! Her most cherished resource. <3 <3 <3 This has worked very well for us, with our dogs as well as our fosters. Good luck lady! I hope you can figure out a good solution, and you know it's perfectly normal!!!
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