There are so many that suffer in silence. That have been through difficult times
and can not see a way to get past the sadness, stress, pain or agony. I want
you to know that there is a way out, that things do get better, if you let
them. Everyone at one point or another goes through something traumatic,
scary, sad, embarrassing, painful or difficult. No pain is too small, it all
matters. Because something that seems silly to one person may be very
challenging for another. Some folks can be dealt the scariest scenarios, yet
come out with a positive outlook, but not all are this fortunate. For those of
you who are having a tough time and think that there isn't much to live for, I
beg you to reach out. Reach out to anyone, a family member, a friend, a
doctor or even a stranger. You are not alone, even though it may feel this
way. There will always be someone who cares for you. Your life matters, you
matter. At times these thoughts and feelings of sadness, fear, stress or
indifference may seem overwhelming, but there is help. Help comes in so many
ways, there is therapy, medicine, exercise, nutrition, stress relief activities, or
just talking to someone can help. You are beautiful, talented and special, the
world would not be the same without you, so please give life a chance, take
the first step towards happiness and reach out!

If you want to use this thread for talking about things, anything, please do.
Who knows, perhaps someone else can relate to what you are going through.
A support system can be formed, small things can make a big difference.

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I feel like my whole life is controlled by other people. Sometimes I wish I could take Sky and just run. It's not a big problem I know but it would be nice if I didn't feel like that. This is a great thread idea by the way.

That must not be a very nice feeling, I'm sorry.
Do you mind if I ask what makes you feel that way?
Is there anything you wish to change, but aren't sure how?

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I feel like that because I don't really pay for anything. I guess it's all money related. My fiance pays for everything that I eat, do, I mean EVERYTHING. I don't like that because I can never do anything that I want. Like if I want to go to the mall and he doesn't I don't go. I love him and he is very kind, it's just that I wish I had more say in what I did. He loves Sky and treats her like a queen so that makes me very happy and he treats me like a queen too but sometimes he can be a bit over protective. I can't go downtown because I might be kidnapped, I can't take an evening stroll because I might get kidnapped, I can't nap while he's away because someone might break in while I'm napping and I won't be ready to fight to not get kidnapped. It's always like that! It's not all that bad and sometimes I don't really notice because I don't consider myself an adventurous person. I would like some changes but you're right, I don't know how.

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Aerials, in the Sky, when you lose small mind you free your life. Aerials so up high, when you free your eyes, eternal prize.

Thank you for the Siggy Pastel!

Can I ask what you do for a living. As you have started a few threads like this now. They are lovley threads and sometimes it's easyer to talk to strangers. I just wanted to know if listening is part of your job xxxx

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Thank you Charlotte for my Siggy mwah xxx

There is no psychiatrist in the world,
Like a chihuahua licking your face.

Is there anything that keeps you from pitching in financially?
Or do you think having your own spending money would not help?
Have you wondered why your fiance worries so much about something
bad happening to you? I ask because there is always a reason why people
do what they do. I had a similar problem with hubby for a long while. He
used to be overly protective of me and always worried too much when I
did something without him. All his fears and insecurities were coming from
the past. He was cheated on by his ex, it was very painful for him to be
betrayed not just by his girlfriend but his best friend as well. He still has
a scar on his knuckles from punching that guy. So even in a new relationship
with me he still carried all these worries. It took a long while to work it out
and get him to trust me and not always think the worst.



No it is not part of my job. I just realized that when I shared a little bit of my
life on this forum, other people reached out to me with their issues, and we
found a little bit of comfort in talking. I thought it would be nice if others
could connect this way too. I don't have all the answers, but maybe someone
on here might. I feel like when one opens up others join in and we all come to
realize that we are not alone, there are people who've been dealt similar problems.
We all come on this forum for different reasons, some just like to talk about
dogs, others like the idea of a getaway so to speak, sometimes after a long,
hard day it helps to look at adorable puppies and get our minds off things.
I wanted a thread where people can come together and support each other,
not just through the good but also the bad and/or the difficult times.

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I suppose if I had my own money it would help a little bit. But I would also have to save up for a car and learn how to drive. I don't know how to drive yet it's so embarrassing! Basically for now I am stuck doing whatever he or his parents or my parents tell me to do. As for why he is afraid of something happening to me, I am approached by creepy characters a lot even while he's with me. He probably sees this and then thinks I'm going to be killed or something if he isn't there. Nothing bad has ever happened to me. Well, actually, I did run away when I was in high school. I showed up to school and asked him if I could borrow his knife (he was one of those guys that always carried a work knife even to school which is bad!) and we were just friends. I had absolutely no interest in being with him. Well, he asked why and I told him it was because my dad had hit me and because my parents were making me want to die with all the bickering and it was just a very depressing setting. Well, he said he wouldn't let me go alone. So that day he walked nearly 25 miles with me and hitchhiked with me to a city about 75 miles away. We were caught because when I wasn't looking he phoned the police to come pick us up. I guess he never wanted us to make it to our destination but he definitely didn't want me to know that he was the one who called the police.

I think ever since then he has been over protective and he thinks that maybe I will run away or something stupid. Well, I'm a young woman now so I think I should have a little more freedom!

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Aerials, in the Sky, when you lose small mind you free your life. Aerials so up high, when you free your eyes, eternal prize.

Thank you for the Siggy Pastel!

Relationships aren't so simple, are they...
If I were you I would simply talk to him Sky, that's the only way to go I think.
Let him know how you feel. Relationships are all about compromise, meeting
each other in the middle. After all, he is your fiance, not your parent, you guys
need to make decisions together, if he continues to make all the decisions for
you, you will grow to resent him, since you are already unhappy about the lack
of trust. Speak to him nicely, don't put any blame, just explain how it makes you
feel. I'm also sorry to hear you had such problems with your parents, I hope
that's settled now. Take care.

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