I just spent an hour on the phone with a friend of mine. She has this friend that she spends more time mad at, than not. I get to listen to the drama at least 3 times a week. Her point is very valid, and I agree. But once you figure out the behavior is ongoing, remove the negativity from your life. This woman manipulates my friend constantly. If my friend isn't constantly praising this lady, she avoids and ignores her. Basically she pouts until my friend tells her what she wants to hear. If you point out anything obvious to her that she doesn't want to hear she will go weeks without speaking to my friend until she kisses her butt. I wouldn't even waste my time on a friendship like that.

Okay. I'm done.

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fer sure....... its called manlipulation....... as the saying goes....
You can't be taken advantage of....... unless you LET someone take advantage of you...... been there, done that........

hope your friend learns the lesson soon.....

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Oh boy can I relate. I have a friend who loves to complain to me about one of her other "friends," how she's always talking about herself, and drama. I straight up tell her every time to just cut her off; that it's not worth it, but she says she doesn't want to "burn any bridges". Screw that, I'll torch any unnecessary bridge if it's obviously falling apart anyway LOL!! That said I've only had to really cut off one friendship, after finding out she was stealing from my us. Fortunately, I've had a rep of being an antisocial intact-female-dog to anyone that isn't a true friend of mine, so it's not hard for me to turn my back to someone who I know is only bringing negativity into my life. One of life's lessons I guess. I hope your friend comes to her senses; I'm sure it'll be much better for her own well-being.

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I would like to vent too but you gals probably don't wanna hear it lol.

Anyway hope your friend realize it soon. Maybe you need to give her a good knock in the head for a head start.

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I'm Jan, been there done that! I'm surprised anyone would think that of you Kat. There's always someone here willing to listen Angie. ( sorry I don't know how to multiquote)

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Thanks Melissa, but on my way home earlier, I talked to my hubby and well he said something that just made me so mad that I wanna just puke. Maybe when I'm more calm down I'll just vent...I'm too mad to even vent it out right now! (if that is even possible)

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I agree, Jan. I keep telling her that. We all seem to learn the hard way. It's just to draining and consuming to have 'friends' like that.

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I agree and like your style! That's what I say. Screw it. I'll give the shirt off my back. But the never ending BS drama is pointless. She goes on and on about this woman. The crap this lady does to manipulate is unreal. I would have already told her where to stick it.

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