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Old 12-19-2012, 02:17 AM
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I will add a bit more and then I will stop before I say too much.

I tell my children and their spouses this as well as other young couples we know.

Your decisions are no longer what is best for you and they are not even to be what is best for your husband. Your choices and your decisions should all be passed through the filter of "is this best for my marriage?".

I also believe that things happen for a reason and in the appropriate timing. Is a school you really would love to attend able to accept you in 3 years and may not have been today? Is there an instructor who will be instrumental to your path who will be where you are 3 years from now but not today or is there a place where you are destined to fulfill your career but things between now and then have to be laid in place first?
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Old 12-19-2012, 02:25 AM
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I will add a bit more and then I will stop before I say too much.
haha no worries, I am valuing all of your comments, and everyone else's as well.

You know, you are right. I too am a believer that everything happens for a reason. I forgot that this time. Thank you for the reminder. I tell people that so often and here I am, not taking my own advice. I am so wrapped up in being a 35 year old student, maybe a mom, and who knows what else-not knowing where we will live.. I'm terrified of the future and not having set in stone plan.

I am desperate to be back in the states. I could easily hop on flight back home and start a nursing program, but that IS NOT what is best for marriage which is exactly why I'm not doing that. We would both be miserable. Not to mention the dogs, that just would not work in any way, shape, or form.
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Old 12-19-2012, 02:31 AM
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Do you have any suggestions as to what kind of activities I can get involved in to gain some sort of experience? I'm meeting with two hospital docs today to ask them that question and see if I can shadow. Would you suggest that the online courses for prereqs for nursing school is a waste?
See what openings are available at the base hospital. Unit clerk? Delivery or transportation? Hospitality? Take any opening and run with it. You will then have the inside track on the workings of the hospital and that is valuable. If you are interested in patient care, see if there are any tech openings and what kind of training they require. Some hospitals offer classes.

As for pre requisites... it all depends on the accepting university. They are all different. Some accept online classes, some don't. I would check with schools of nursing in the states you are interested in just to get a feel for that. It could be a costly time waster if you have to re-take the classes as they aren't accepted.

Let us know what the docs say and suggest. That will be interesting! There may be some doors open for you that you never even considered!
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Old 12-19-2012, 02:37 AM
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I have enjoyed it. This is my second time living here. We lived here 5 years ago. And also in Italy for 3 years. Trust that I know I am extremely happy to have had these experiences. Now I feel that I've experienced all these awesome and new things in various countries. I have traveled, extensively for someone my age.
Ahhh your an old hand at this then! I know what it feels like to worry your peers are passing you (and the man I loved was in the states while I was away!), and you are not getting anywhere to further your future. It's almost like time is frozen for that aspect of your life. You must feel very frustrated! I think everyone on here is giving great advice, and I hope you find a program or a Dr. you can do some work for while you are there. Sounds like you are already busy trying to make contacts! Good for you lady! I'm sure you will find something!
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Old 12-19-2012, 02:54 AM
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Hey Tiffany,

I'm sad you're feeling a bit down about being in Japan

I can't really give advice like those who are older and wiser but I can give you another perspective.

I'm 29 and working in a job I love but I'm working quite long demanding hours and I only get to spend quality time with my husband on weekends.

I went straight from high school into an undergrad degree (they're 3 years in Australia) and then did a masters full time straight after that (1.5 years) then straight into full time work. Then after 3 years of full time work I started my MBA part time while working full time.

Although I have 3 degrees under my belt and 6 years work experience in my chosen industry and own a home I now feel like I may have missed out on fun and life experience when I was younger. Am I going to look back in 10 years time and regret that I didn't travel more, use more of my other skills that don't necessarily relate to my career, spend more quality time with my husband, friends and family?

I don't know the answer to this, I think its different for everybody. Some people are all about career and education while others put life experience and relationships higher up the priority list. Maybe I'll be able to retire early and go travelling and live a bit more spontaneously.

You seem like a smart driven person who is more than capable of achieving her goals. You're not sitting around doing nothing, you are having great and valuable experiences that will serve you well in life. You may not be doing things on the same schedule as your peers but as long as you tick off everything on your list eventually I think you will be happy.
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Old 12-19-2012, 03:33 AM
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If you come to North Carolina..I know of three nursing programs not to mention a Medical school within driving distance...
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Old 12-19-2012, 03:47 AM
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Hey Tiffany,

I'm sad you're feeling a bit down about being in Japan

I can't really give advice like those who are older and wiser but I can give you another perspective.

I'm 29 and working in a job I love but I'm working quite long demanding hours and I only get to spend quality time with my husband on weekends.

I went straight from high school into an undergrad degree (they're 3 years in Australia) and then did a masters full time straight after that (1.5 years) then straight into full time work. Then after 3 years of full time work I started my MBA part time while working full time.

Although I have 3 degrees under my belt and 6 years work experience in my chosen industry and own a home I now feel like I may have missed out on fun and life experience when I was younger. Am I going to look back in 10 years time and regret that I didn't travel more, use more of my other skills that don't necessarily relate to my career, spend more quality time with my husband, friends and family?

I don't know the answer to this, I think its different for everybody. Some people are all about career and education while others put life experience and relationships higher up the priority list. Maybe I'll be able to retire early and go travelling and live a bit more spontaneously.

You seem like a smart driven person who is more than capable of achieving her goals. You're not sitting around doing nothing, you are having great and valuable experiences that will serve you well in life. You may not be doing things on the same schedule as your peers but as long as you tick off everything on your list eventually I think you will be happy.
Thanks Sarah, that is another way of looking at things. I do not have degrees and work experience under my belt, but I do have a buttload of good times and humanitarian events under it. I don't think I should include pub crawling in Amsterdam on my nursing school application tho hahahaha. Just kidding, I get what you're saying and am thankful. You are right, all of you are right.

I just need to change my attitude. I think I might want to learn Spanish. It's something I've always wanted to do. I have no interest in Japanese, at all. Maybe I can find some research projects to get in to, or like Tracy suggested, a job in the hospital. I guess I have no choice but to wait it out, I should make the best of it and make myself a stronger candidate for when the time does come to apply and interview. The doctors I was meeting with this afternoon just had to reschedule, an emergency came up. That will give me time to reconsider all of my thoughts and maybe organize them into words that make sense when said out loud. Thank you guys sooooo sooo much for your advice. I never expect for anyone to really get it, but I do honestly feel better and like I might have a beginning to a plan.
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Old 12-19-2012, 06:35 AM
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Hi, just wanted to chip in with that due to life getting in the way I didn't start my Nurse Training until I was 36yrs old, I qualified one month before my 40th Birthday. Your never too old to do what you want to do, don't feel sad if its your dream you will do it.
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