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Old 12-31-2012, 01:45 AM
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My resolution this year is to be more understanding of people, be a nicer person, not be so cynical, but dang some people make that so difficult!!

Example-I received a message on the yorkie forum in response to my search for a breeder in Japan. It was from a military person, or military wife, I'm not sure. Anyway, she's in the states and asked if I had any info on breeders for her here in Japan. She's moving here at the end of January. She said that she didn't want to bring her 8mo. old yorkie with her because of the strict quarantine rules and paperwork. She said it'd make her dog miserable...but then she asked if I could suggest some breeders since she "would LOVE to get another yorkie once settled"..... ...so what, her current dog is that easily replaced?? Are you serious right now?

First of all, she probably chose to come to Japan knowing well what the restrictions were on pets. So irresponsible of her! and if she didn't choose, there are other ways of getting her dog here. For example, letting it stay with a family member while it finishes the 6mo quarantine.

I politely informed her that if she were to be living on base, her current dog could come with her and finish out the quarantine period in her home and also that her leaving her dog behind like an old pair of sneakers (didn't use those words) would probably make her dog even more miserable than the travel to Japan..and yada yada...

I really really want to be a better person, but how can I do that with so many idiots running around!?!?! Am I overreacting? I wish ignorance didn't exist, but since it's inevitable, I wish I wouldn't let it get to me. Do any of you wise women have any advice on how to ignore the things that make us upset at others?

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Old 12-31-2012, 02:49 AM
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Breathing...Tiffany, breathing is how I keep calm. I'm the type of person that
analyzes everything, I always try to make sense of things, try to understand.
But the thing is, some things I simply can not comprehend, like people
abandoning their dogs for example. And you know what? I'm glad I don't get it,
because I know I could never do that. There are all kinds of people in our world,
we can't all have the same morals and values. So when I run into an individual
whose behavior is alien like to me, I simply breath. Deep, long breaths, before
speaking. It gives me time to compose myself and think before I speak. A lot of
people are set in their ways, and giving them a piece of your mind won't change
things, so I try a gentler approach, it doesn't always work, but it usually gets
me further than losing my temper. There are times that keeping myself
composed is extremely challenging, for instance when I have the man who
beats his dog in my living room speaking to me about his problems, giving me
excuses for his behavior and his reasons for abandoning his dog, telling me
how he often forgets to feed the dog, how his girlfriend poured bleach on the
dog's head, ect, all I want to do is to shake him and tell him how horrible he
is, but I breath and remain calm because I know that if I lose my temper he
might take his dog and walk right out, and I would not be able to help that
dog. You see what I mean? You basically can't fight fire with fire, when faced
with a jerk, you can not act like a jerk...it won't get you anywhere. You have
to be the bigger person, you have to breath, and think of a way you can get
through to them without making things worse. That's all I do...not sure if this
is helpful to you Tiffany.
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You two have much more patience than I. Stupid people and their ignorance is literally the kind of stuff that keeps me up at night. (Okay, mostly, veterinarians and dog food companies, but still lol.)

There's a fine line between those who think of their dogs as property and those who think of them as family. The latter, I will ALWAYS be willing to help educate. As for the people who consider pets disposable, I have a very hard time being even remotely sympathetic to. There's someone who Rob works with who first wanted us to take in their Chi because "it's mean," and then a few days later asked what we would CHARGE to keep the dog for a while and train it, then give it back. O_O Fortunately, Robbie knows how I am and told her straight out that the first thing I'd tell her is that the owners need the training, not the dog. ^_^ Bless him.. I'm offering a "free" consultation (who charges for that kind of stuff anyway?? =S) and hoping they'll be willing to come sit down with the dog for an hour or so, but I really hope that I've got LS's patience in dealing with them.

So long story short Tiffany no I have no advice on ignoring them or being patient LOL!!! I can only offer empathy. I don't think you're overreacting at all; just a passionate person with a good heart. <3
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Old 12-31-2012, 03:45 PM
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Hey, that's my New Year resolution too!! I'm going to try not cursing so much & stop yelling!! I'm like you tho, not sure if society will let me stay calm, but I'm going to try hard. Lol This is a much harder resolution for me than quitting smoking. As of tonight at 12, I am Smoke-free for 1 full year!! Yay--Me!!
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Old 12-31-2012, 11:24 PM
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Hey, that's my New Year resolution too!! I'm going to try not cursing so much & stop yelling!! I'm like you tho, not sure if society will let me stay calm, but I'm going to try hard. Lol This is a much harder resolution for me than quitting smoking. As of tonight at 12, I am Smoke-free for 1 full year!! Yay--Me!!
lol i have quite the potty mouth too!! That combined with my short temper and sarcasm, I can come off really rude sometimes lol. So I want to work on that. I don't intend to be mean, but the words I use just come off that way, even if I meant nothing harsh by it. Congratulations on being 1 year smoke free!!! That is quite the accomplishment. I know, I use to smoke as well Good on you HAPPY NEW YEAR.
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Hey, that's my New Year resolution too!! I'm going to try not cursing so much & stop yelling!! I'm like you tho, not sure if society will let me stay calm, but I'm going to try hard. Lol This is a much harder resolution for me than quitting smoking. As of tonight at 12, I am Smoke-free for 1 full year!! Yay--Me!!
lol i have quite the potty mouth too!! That combined with my short temper and sarcasm, I can come off really rude sometimes lol. So I want to work on that. I don't intend to be mean, but the words I use just come off that way, even if I meant nothing harsh by it. Then add in my low tolerance for BS and voila! Congratulations on being 1 year smoke free!!! That is quite the accomplishment. I know, I use to smoke as well Good on you HAPPY NEW YEAR.
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Sounds like its just more convenient for her to get rid of the current dog and get a new one once she's moved. I doubt it really has anything to do with being worried about her dog traveling. People like that disgust me. A pet should be a member of the family, you wouldn't leave a child behind because of a move. She really doesn't deserve any dog at all.
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I totally agree with LS that's what momma thought me.
But I think what you did was great, you were polite and caring and that makes you a good person.
Things will make you angry and that is normal, it's how you react to those things that will make you better.

So don't think because you let get things get to you and make you sad or angry that you are not keeping your resolutions of being a better person.
By caring you are already there.


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