I am so very, very sorry for your loss...there are truly no words to ease your heartache and pain right now. I know Elmo took a large piece of your heart with him. Please know you will be in my prayers.
"There’s no changing people, and we can’t even help people with whom we’re emotionally involved. Let them be, stop expecting things from people who cannot provide those things, and recognize that we can live happy, productive lives regardless of what others, even close relatives, are doing or saying."