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Old 09-24-2015, 03:14 PM
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Hi all, I know I've been off the board for about a month...life just gets so busy with the fur kids of course, a daughter in Nursing school and my 2 jobs and since I'm on a computer all day with work, a lot of times the last thing I want to do is get back on one when I'm home, lol.

Carolina and Indy are doing great. I should post some new pictures, when I get around to taking some new ones.

On to the real question. An opportunity has presented itself twice to me in the last 3 months to add the same young adult female chi to our family. Is that a sign in itself? I'm just feeling really conflicted on one major area.. doing what's best for all of us, including this chi. She is available from a breeder that started showing her in confirmation, but has found she, the chi, does not appear to like it very much and as she finished growing (she's now 20 months and 4lbs 3 oz) her top line in not completely level, as her rear is a little higher than what she'd like for showing or breeding. Not a problem for pet obviously so she's offering her to a pet home. She is the same coloring as Carolina, red spotted on white, markings being a little different and of course that was my immediate attraction to her. As I've been going over in my head again this last week the pros and cons, most of the common ones are not an issue for me. Cons of added medical, total financial, providing a lifetime home, more time involved for a 3rd, etc.. Pros of another one to love, being able to provide a good home for her lifetime, not having to go through puppy stages and training, my current 2 having the personality and training to handle a 3rd coming into the household, Carolina having a sister to play with, as Indy is not big on playing all day, where Carolina is. The biggest thing I'm stuck on is changing the household dynamics and forming a "pack". I don't want Carolina's personality to change, Indy on the other hand might benefit from some "pack" type changes. Our current balance of 2 works as Carolina is completely a momma's girl and Indy is more of a daddy's boy. Is a 3rd going to upset Carolina that someone else is also getting my attention? There are times she doesn't want to let Indy sit next to me. She's never mean and never fights with him, she will just keep wiggling her way in between us until he moves over. We take our 2 on vacations with us and is a 3rd going to be too much? Is one of them going to feel left out? I also don't want to do this for my selfish reasons of wanting to have another chi to love and be in our family...I want to make sure it's a good choice for Carolina and Indy too and that they would benefit from it also.

Any input, thoughts, experiences or suggestions on anything else I should consider would greatly be appreciated.
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Old 09-24-2015, 03:57 PM
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Hi Michele! Miss you and my Carolina pics around here. It's good to have you back. Sounds like you've been crazy busy!

Well you know what I'm going to say. I had 2 chi's for a couple years before adding the third and I too had all of the same worries. Once we got over the hurdle of acceptance from my two chi's to this new addition I brought into their lives, I must say the experience turned out better than I could've imagined and I wonder why I had so many worries in the first place. It did take a long while ( few months) for my most attached to me chi Bailey to accept Braxton. Having 3 made it easier for me to add a 4th. And frankly...Brax grew up to be opposite of her outgoing puppy personality, she's a very sweet, quiet, easy going adult. Once I brought in Ava, everyone got used to her pretty quickly. Ava sounds like Carolina in that she really is a mommas girl, if she's in my lap she thinks it is solely hers. But still I say we have just as nice a balance as a 4 chi household as we did as 3 and 2. Remember that everyone will find their place eventually. And you don't know with the new pup where she may fall in your household, she may be more of a loner like Brax lol, or independent like Kendall. Whatever the case, it'll work out. And there's a reason this breeder thinks this chi is a great fit for you. Sounds like you have everything to offer and this chi has everything to gain so I say go for it.
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hi Michele !
that is so exciting that your considering adding a 3rd chi !!!
For me, two chis is def. better than having one chi, and 3 chis is much better that having two chis . I guess it must depend on the personality of your chis. do they like other dogs ? mine are all good natured girls and they accepted Ellie right away. I don't think Carolina will be upset as long as she still feels just as loved and gets a lot of your attention. try to make them think that this new dog that is being added to your family is for them. a new sister !!! I think you should get her but , whatever decision you make , i'm sure it will be the right one for you
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I would say the biggest con with three is you only have two hands, so walking, carrying them etc requires a little more thought.
Having more than two definitely won't make your existing dogs love you any less. Domestic dogs are not actually pack animals, they consider themselves part of your family no matter how many there are.
The advantage with the possible new dog being an adult is you can take her out with your two first and see how they respond to each other. If all goes well you could take her on trial to see how she fits in.
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Hi Michele! Miss you and my Carolina pics around here. It's good to have you back. Sounds like you've been crazy busy!

Well you know what I'm going to say. I had 2 chi's for a couple years before adding the third and I too had all of the same worries. Once we got over the hurdle of acceptance from my two chi's to this new addition I brought into their lives, I must say the experience turned out better than I could've imagined and I wonder why I had so many worries in the first place. It did take a long while ( few months) for my most attached to me chi Bailey to accept Braxton. Having 3 made it easier for me to add a 4th. And frankly...Brax grew up to be opposite of her outgoing puppy personality, she's a very sweet, quiet, easy going adult. Once I brought in Ava, everyone got used to her pretty quickly. Ava sounds like Carolina in that she really is a mommas girl, if she's in my lap she thinks it is solely hers. But still I say we have just as nice a balance as a 4 chi household as we did as 3 and 2. Remember that everyone will find their place eventually. And you don't know with the new pup where she may fall in your household, she may be more of a loner like Brax lol, or independent like Kendall. Whatever the case, it'll work out. And there's a reason this breeder thinks this chi is a great fit for you. Sounds like you have everything to offer and this chi has everything to gain so I say go for it.
I had a feeling you would say something like that. Thanks for the encouraging words. Carolina and Ava do sound a lot a like, being momma girls. I am afraid adding number 3 would open the door for 4, haha. I really have a lot to think about.
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hi Michele !
that is so exciting that your considering adding a 3rd chi !!!
For me, two chis is def. better than having one chi, and 3 chis is much better that having two chis . I guess it must depend on the personality of your chis. do they like other dogs ? mine are all good natured girls and they accepted Ellie right away. I don't think Carolina will be upset as long as she still feels just as loved and gets a lot of your attention. try to make them think that this new dog that is being added to your family is for them. a new sister !!! I think you should get her but , whatever decision you make , i'm sure it will be the right one for you
Hi Elaina. Thank you for the encouraging words too. I'm trying not to get too excited because I have not convinced myself that this is a great move to make yet. I completely agree 2 is better than 1, just not sure if I'm 100% sure 3 is better than 2 yet. Indy loves other small dogs and wags his tail and get excited, Carolina on the other hand is very polite, but not real interested or excited.
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I would say the biggest con with three is you only have two hands, so walking, carrying them etc requires a little more thought.
Having more than two definitely won't make your existing dogs love you any less. Domestic dogs are not actually pack animals, they consider themselves part of your family no matter how many there are.
The advantage with the possible new dog being an adult is you can take her out with your two first and see how they respond to each other. If all goes well you could take her on trial to see how she fits in.
Thank you for the input. Interesting point on domestic dogs not actually being pack animals. Makes sense what your saying. Most of the research I've done online states otherwise, but you can't believe everything you read either.

Good thought on maybe discussing with the breeder taking her on trial and options if it wouldn't work out. A good breeder should be more than willing to take a dog back for any reason.
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A lot of old theories have been disproven by modern science. Here is a link to a thread I started a while back which has some links to good articles on the subject https://www.chihuahua-people.com/chih...ck-animal.html
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