adopted dog missing owners-neighbors. Advice needed.
It's only been a couple days but could really use some advice or experience. We have lived in our rv full time the past few years. Home sold and we are headed back up north, purchased a large home there. So we are still here until Christmas with our work contract. The rv next to us (owner of the park) had taken in a chi mix about a year ago from one of the other nearby rv's that were looking for a home for her.
There are 4 boys that we always saw walking [Sandy] and taking care of her. An element changed in their home (new step-mother) and they apparently kicked the dog out 5 days ago. The boys came to us three days ago stating that their father wouldn't let Sandy back in and were worried because she was now out all night and they witnessed her being kicked when she wandered down the road to a nearby store. They asked if we could help; they always come to see our dogs. Just after, we witnessed Sandy go outside the sliding glass door of their camper and whine for 10 minutes until the father came by and started yelling at her and waving his arms angrily to go away. Really, hubby and I both were just sick seeing that-our heart just broke. I immediately went to speak to the father whom confirmed all of this. I asked if we could help by taking the dog-we had planned on a rescue after getting into our larger home anyhow and it's just a few months. So, after a payment to the father, we have Sandy here. The boys come over a few times a day and she seems happy. She is fantastic.
The problem is that she really misses the boys and even [believe it or not] the father. Our rv window faces the one she was in for a year where the boys are and she whined literally all the first day then kept running to the door. We bought some new shades for the window and it helped but when we take her for walks down the road, she ends up trying desperately to go toward the next door rv. The boys are also coming to see her all day as they are home schooled and home. We havent got her to the vet yet as we couldn't get an appt until Wed but de flea-ed her and clipped her nails (yikes-that was painful to do. She is not used to that for sure). Not worried for the flea factor-our animals are on a long flea control program but cant ask the vet for advice until then.
We are used to taking in new family members and the adjustment time but never have the experience of the last owners being literally in the same space. I don't anticipate everyone feeling in a family and situated for the next 6 months or so with the upcoming move but if there is any advice on what can help her not go to the door and whine most of the day, we could use it. Particularly any thoughts on the boys and the interaction there. We want all involved to be happy but most for Sandy to feel she is still loved by these really great boys (totally not their fault for this-pretty great kids to come to us and care so much for her because the father really didn't care one iota after we talked to him. Just going to leave her to get killed on the busy road or get hurt by wandering-ugh). don't know how yet to really add pics here but will add one to my page of the new one. She's really a great dog.
Oh Jeez! What a situation! I think maybe I'd get something so she couldn't get to the door. Maybe a big pen (Iris pen=36x36 inches)? the boys could only visit once? Just reread your post. I'd ask the boys to visit only once a day for now. The other thing would be to walk away from her previous home. Also play with her. Give her chew toys--anything to take up her time. The other thing is that you've only had her for 3-4 days. Give her a couple of weeks. If she made the transition from one RV'er to the boys, then she'll likely make it again. Tincture of time! (hard medicine!) will work. Just don't give up.
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They are all starting to kind of get to know each other more and she's less shy with our babies now but it's definately going to take a bit of time.
Lots with Medb-best thing for both of them. She is taking her out all the time before and after school and making sure she's fed. Took her shopping and she got tons of toys but most of the time she stays near Medb. Vet visit to come and hoping to get her and the other babies to the park that is near their vet-waiting for the heat to be less intense. THANK YOU so much for the advice. Coming along well.
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Medb is our 16 year old daughter-we have an 18 year old son as well. We've been a little out of the box these past years. Hubby is from Italy-we lived there for 3 years until a few years ago (where we got my Lolli). We lived between the countries the first years a decade ago and chose Italy for my husband's family-they are a culture very close in that respect, as depticted.
We chose to go back to the US but had to be separated for a year and a half for hubby to get full residency. Lolli really saved me in that time of missing him like crazy-she missed him too. She only slept on his jacket until he got here and perked up noticably with skype calls. We chose fl without knowing much but limited for the conditions of returning to the US on domicile (I'm a natural citizen).
So many problems with the house we bought, the area with a lot of bullying and really tough kids. Have been selling the house-in the meantime we rented the house out and started loving to be in the Rv. Homeschooled for a year as we work overnight the rest of the year then she began school where we are based now. matteo is going to classes at Lake Tech here with a transfer emphasis to the college up north in niagara falls; it was our home before we left permanently for Italy. Hubby visited the first 4 years on visas while I lived in NF; just not in the winter lol. I visited with the kids (second job to finance it) summers and christmas in Italy the same first 3 years and first year of marriage. Hence the detour to Fl [snow]. We both loved and miss it there [ny] and my family is there-it was a family decision to go this route and we don't regret it; not even the 2-legged kids (smile).
Only preparing to get the chis (especially our tiny runt-bella) used to winter weather during christmas.
Let me start by saying you have done an amazing thing. Sandy needs a forever LOVING home. Every breed becomes attached to their owners and territory but chis become extremely attached and clingy (more so than any breed I've personal experience with). With that being said she loves those boys and she's use to them. And as heart breaking as it is she even loves the jerk father (sorry I had to say that)
It will take time but she will eventually build that level of comfort and loyalty with you. You just kind of have to step back and ask yourself what is best for the dog in this situation. In my opinion that answer would be to begin adjusting to you and her new family. As sad as it is she can not do this if they are always around. I wouldn't completely cut the children off but I would limit the amount of time they spent together just to help her to adjust. Wishing you and your new baby the very best!
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