Those who have read my other post and know my history with Angel may think here she goes again with another post but I am at my wits end right now. The separation anxiety has apparently gone to another level and as I sit here I am trying to fight back tears because I am tired physically and mentally.
Angel has slept in and stayed in her crate since I got her, so she has been used to it. Not saying she liked it but it's nothing new. She did for a while whine and howl when we left the house, but a few month ago she stopped and for a good month and 1/2 she didn't whine or howl (that I could hear) when we left. I was happy because I was thinking we are finally making progress, one thing off the list we have overcome. She is still clingy, but that is another post. ANYWHO....At night she has never whined or howled when being put in her crate. At first she was in my room, but I thought to help with her being clingy to gradually move the crate out to get her used to not being in my room sleeping. Plus, my room doesn't have a lot of room so her crate took up needed space. I eventually moved her out far enough in the living-room where she still had line of sight to me in my bed and for about a month or so she was fine, slept through the night and everything.
All of after putting her in her crate like normal at night, she had a FIT and I mean a FIT!! She whined, cried, whimpered and was clawing at her crate trying to get out. I went to check on her to make sure she was ok and try to calm her down. She finally did and I went back to bed, she started up again and I started to get up to go back but decided to go online to see what I needed to do, especially since I checked and couldn't find anything wrong, I read, leave her alone because if you keep getting up she will see that get's her attention and keep doing it. So I didn't move, I laid there hoping she would calm down eventually, she did 4 hours laters. By that time I had no sleep with her being so close I could heard it all LOUDLY.
That morning, I checked her again to make sure I didn't miss anything, and make sure she wasn't injured found nothing. Watched her during the day to make sure she was feeling well, and she ate fine, played around (in her own way) like normal. Got ready for bed, put her in her crate, she settled down I was thinking good, she wa quiet for about 10-15min and then she started again, this time louder than the night before and I didn't think it could get louder. I didn't get up or move, she carried on for a long time, so that night I got no sleep, she finally stopped around 3:30-4am and I was able to actually go to sleep but had to get up at 6:30am.
The next night same thing, I decided to close my door to try and drown out her out because even thought I work from home, I still needed to sleep to function. She closing the door was a big help because I could still hear her but at least that night she calmed down sooner so I was able to go to sleep earlier. Then the next night came and the same thing, my sister said move her somewhere she can't see you maybe seeing you is what's causing it. I was like ok, I was desperate to try it. I mean I knew she wanted to be close to me that is why she was doing it, but I was just hoping it would work. NOPE didn't she howled and whine harder and louder, she was still in the living-room but I half wall going down my stairs and I moved her behind that. She didn't whine and howl as long that night either but it was still hard.
All of this started last Wednesday, fast forward to today and every night the same thing. My mom said she is probably tired of the crate, which I understand but if I could trust her to not roam and go poop and pee when she is out at night, I would let her sleep outside of her crate, but every-time I have she has pooped and pee'd. Sunday night I decided to put her downstairs in my office, some people might want to get me for that, but I had to do something. I put her in her crate down there (not in the dark) with a light from my desktop on, made sure she was comfortable, talked to her to let her know it was ok and then closed the door to go upstairs. Before I could get in bed good, you would've thought someone was killing her. She howled so loud I was for sure my neighbors could here and I live in a house and they aren't close together. I heard somewhere to bang on-time (not too loud) to get them to stop. After suffering for about 2 hours, I did that and she stopped. A few hours went by, she started again, but stopped after 30min. I get up the next morning to check on her and she had gotten out of her crate. Don't ask because I have no clue as to how she was able to.
After a few more nights of the same thing, I decided ok maybe it is the crate more than anything so last night I put in downstairs this time not in her crate, she had her pillow and blanket and her stuffed dog. She was actually ok for about an hour and then she started again. I got up bang on the wall to my office and she stopped for a long time, this morning around 5am she started again off and on until I had to get up at 6:30am. Oh and yes I have tried putting kong's, treats etc there with her, didn't help.
Unfortunately, business the past couple of weeks has been slow so I haven't had to bake much, so she had has more access to me. I'm home like always like usual, haven't given her any extra attention, afraid if I do and I get busy again (which need to pay the bills) it will cause her to act out more. Right now I am to the point of being done. I thought about behavioral training but OH MY GOODNESS, the prices, I simply can not afford right now. I don't know what to do.
I am still looking at playpen but after last night not sure it would even help since the crate doesn't seem to be the issue her being out didn't help. I thought about putting her in my son's room, but I have to make her stay with him now a lot of time and not be stuck to my side all of them, so that may not help. And it's a no to putting her back in my room, I'm trying to move her away from that and I've read moving them somewhere else to sleep sometimes helps with teaching them be more independent.
I don't know, I'm not mad at her because that is how she is, she had a tragic experience but I honestly don't know what to do. I'm afraid of what could happen next because it goes from one thing to next and it gets worse. I'm scared she is going to hurt herself, the other morning I got up to let her out and she was holding her foot up and I thought it was broken, I almost freaked out thinking OMG she has broken her foot trying to get out. The closer I got I saw it was caught in her collar, which was still bad because I don't know how long she had been like that. My next step is re-homing her because obviously I'm not doing something right.
I AM AT A LOSS AND DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!!