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Old 05-30-2017, 11:20 PM
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Hope this isn't getting too personal but it's something that is a part of having a dog. For those that allow your dogs to sleep in your bedrooms (in a doggy bed, crate or playpen) and even in their beds, how do you handle intimacy or alone time with your mate? Especially for those who have dogs that may have separation anxiety issues?

My dog Angel has bad separation anxiety (which is has been discussed in other posts) and even though I didn't want to I moved her back into my bedroom to deal with the problems we were having at night (again discussed in another post), it has helped but no 100% (save it for another post. I am seeing someone and I would like to get married again one day so being intimate at some point will happen, but I'm not sure how I feel about having her in the room even in her playpen. I mean I can roll over at night and I see her starring at me and it is a little unsettling, so I can't imagine trying to have alone time with her starring at us. lolol Plus, what if the guy I'm in a relationship with or even married to doesn't feel comfortable with her in the room?
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I'll have to start with LOL
I started laughing towards the end
It brought some bittersweet memories
Not too long ago I was with someone and we literally talked about everything (just the way we were)
And I guess my dogs came up and I was like yes they sleep in my room but in their crates. And he was like if we were to live together that would have to change. I was like no there my babies! He than went on to saying that when we were intimate would I really want my dogs in the same room. My mind naturally didn't think that "way" at 1st. And I was like not at all. He was like I didn't think so.
Basically he was right but he did say he was still comfortable with them sleeping in the room at night just not every night.
So I'm sure if you were to ask your mate what he'd be comfortable with. I'm sure you both can agree on something your both comfortable with.
But I honestly haven't needed to actually deal with that scenario, I'm 18 and live with parents and don't plan on moving out anytime soon. But when I do move I will take my dogs regardless (who ever is still alive) But I do know Jr will have "major issues" just by moving to a new house. So I know it would have to be a slow process.

I do understand with her staring at you because I wake up every morning and Jr & Sunshine or just one of them are just staring at me.

So you have moved her to your room?
I want to say if that does happen (needing "alone time") don't get her too use to sleeping in your room.
Did the sleeping in the hallway work?
Perhaps moving her to your son's room?
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When we need alone time, Cuddles is understanding and will keep off the bed and usually goes into her crate by herself, and she definitely minds her own business and even sometimes falls asleep. She probably wouldn't be kept in our room when we need time alone if it weren't for the fact that I'm a broke college student and live with my mother at 23 years old.
I don't exactly want to take her downstairs to the living room and then have any of my family asking why I'm leaving her downstairs, either.
When we have our own house, things might be different, but for now Cuddles knows when she needs (and prefers) to go into her crate.
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I'll have to start with LOL
I started laughing towards the end
It brought some bittersweet memories
Not too long ago I was with someone and we literally talked about everything (just the way we were)
And I guess my dogs came up and I was like yes they sleep in my room but in their crates. And he was like if we were to live together that would have to change. I was like no there my babies! He than went on to saying that when we were intimate would I really want my dogs in the same room. My mind naturally didn't think that "way" at 1st. And I was like not at all. He was like I didn't think so.
Basically he was right but he did say he was still comfortable with them sleeping in the room at night just not every night.
So I'm sure if you were to ask your mate what he'd be comfortable with. I'm sure you both can agree on something your both comfortable with.
But I honestly haven't needed to actually deal with that scenario, I'm 18 and live with parents and don't plan on moving out anytime soon. But when I do move I will take my dogs regardless (who ever is still alive) But I do know Jr will have "major issues" just by moving to a new house. So I know it would have to be a slow process.

I do understand with her staring at you because I wake up every morning and Jr & Sunshine or just one of them are just staring at me.

So you have moved her to your room?
I want to say if that does happen (needing "alone time") don't get her too use to sleeping in your room.
Did the sleeping in the hallway work?
Perhaps moving her to your son's room?


Hi Ari,

Yeah I had to move her back into the room because her being outside of my room worked for a short time and she went back to the whining and howling, I couldn't take not getting any sleep. I kind of regret it is because I feel like she won (hope that doesn't come off sounding bad, lol) She still whines a little even being in my room, but only when she first has to go into her playpen, so yeah, not too thrilled about that. (that's another post, lol)

The conversation hasn't come up yet with the guy I am seeing because any intimate moments have happened at his house. He does have a dog (larger one) and she is accustomed to not sleeping in his room, so he closes the door with no problem. I am hoping to train her to be ok with being outside of my room or moving her into my son's room. I really don't know how she would do when or if the time comes when we (me and my mate) want alone time, I can just imagine her being in the hallway howling and whining totally killing the mood, lol.
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When we need alone time, Cuddles is understanding and will keep off the bed and usually goes into her crate by herself, and she definitely minds her own business and even sometimes falls asleep. She probably wouldn't be kept in our room when we need time alone if it weren't for the fact that I'm a broke college student and live with my mother at 23 years old.
I don't exactly want to take her downstairs to the living room and then have any of my family asking why I'm leaving her downstairs, either.
When we have our own house, things might be different, but for now Cuddles knows when she needs (and prefers) to go into her crate.
It's good that Cuddle's can mind her business and even go to sleep, Angel is up and alter at the sound of any movement, and if she knows I am up she is ready to get out of her playpen so I don't think she would mind her business, lol!!!
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Hi Ari,

Yeah I had to move her back into the room because her being outside of my room worked for a short time and she went back to the whining and howling, I couldn't take not getting any sleep. I kind of regret it is because I feel like she won (hope that doesn't come off sounding bad, lol) She still whines a little even being in my room, but only when she first has to go into her playpen, so yeah, not too thrilled about that. (that's another post, lol)

The conversation hasn't come up yet with the guy I am seeing because any intimate moments have happened at his house. He does have a dog (larger one) and she is accustomed to not sleeping in his room, so he closes the door with no problem. I am hoping to train her to be ok with being outside of my room or moving her into my son's room. I really don't know how she would do when or if the time comes when we (me and my mate) want alone time, I can just imagine her being in the hallway howling and whining totally killing the mood, lol.
Lol it doesn't sound bad even I sometimes need alone time and I tell my dogs "I'm kicking you out" of the room (obviously not literally they just go in the backyard for a while till I let them back in)
But I truly believe it'll be "harder" when it her time to sleep outside the room at night.
Maybe his dog would actually serve as a companion and maybe calm her a down if you leave them in a room together (if he brings his dog of course)
That would definitely sucks and it takes a very "understanding" mate to have the patience with a dog screaming behind the door (I personally believe)

I wonder if you could "re-train" her as of now slowly so it won't be a "shock" when she meets a new guy and the same day kick her out lol (she wouldn't be a happy camper)
Then again maybe your son's room is the only option since she has separation issues. Is he okay with it?
Unless another dog helps. I know my dog Brownie had helped Sunshine become a "normal" dog since she had been abused.
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