Wicked Pixie thank you so much for this post it was amazing. And something I unfortunately had to find out the hard way and will NEVER EVER do with another dog I may get in the future.
Cooper being such a naturally submissive dog did not react well to this type of 'humans must be alpha' training. Us humans being dominant by forcing him to eat after us, forcing him to sleep away from us, making sure we walk ahead of him, scaring him to death when hes been naughty by ignoring him etc. I made a post about me realizing that what I was doing was bad and it was a hard thing to realize when all we hear is 'be alpha' 'show him your boss' 'don't let him be the leader'. Basically I had to come to the conclusion based on what I was seeing with my own eyes and not the hundreds of articles that I thought was gospel.
In a way it has taught me to rely on what feels right and don't do something just because everyone else is telling you it should be done that way when you feel its wrong.
Like my very smart mother said: Dogs evolved from wolves yes but the pets in our homes have spent hundreds of thousands of years along humans and in that time have evolved further to better understand us and modify their behaviors accordingly. They are mans best friend for a very good reason.
A perfect example is when people say dogs can only speak dog, they don't understand human.
Which in language not so much, but Cooper 100% understands 'human'. And I can bet any money everyones chis here know when we are happy, sad, angry, in pain etc. Even though we show all of those emotions differently to dogs, they can still totally understand us. Cooper even asks for 'play' and 'food' in ways that certainly aren't 'dog' but he knows will get us to play/feed etc - therefor they speak human as much as we speak dog
Cooper is now a much happier much less fearful dog since I ignored the alpha dominance style training.