One of the things that will really help Jet through this process is your smell. Smell is anything and everything to a dog, it's intoxicating, it's where they get most of their information, and your smell is his favorite of all! It's always difficult to ask a dog to be further away from you when he's discovered that being close to you is "better" or "more comfortable," but wherever you want him to settle, give him the gift of your smell in the place you want him to be.
My chihuahua does not sleep on our bed. She is too small and will have accidents (or rather, will potty waaaaaaaaay on the corner of the bed and go back to sleep) so she sleeps in her kennel, which I cover with a fuzzy, stinky blanket. Every other day or so, though, I give her the shirt I wore that day so she can have my smell with her at night in her kennel. She will dig and nest into my smell, and it's a way for her to be close to me even though she can't be next to me. She does, however, like to see that I'm in the room.
You will have to ignore his pleas. He is confused because all affectionate creatures like sleeping near one another. It's instinctually safe and calming. The method of training I'm about to describe to you is a "do at your own risk" type of thing. Some people may not approve of this method, and if you have a dog that is very shy or very sensitive (doesn't bounce back after training corrections well) this method is NOT for you.
For secure impressionable dogs:
1. Get a kennel.
2. Place his bed in the kennel.
3. Place the kennel with bed in it next to your bed or in a place in your room where Jet knows you're there.
4. Be sure he likes his kennel. Be sure you put your smell in the kennel with him. Be sure you have 0% anxiety about him going into his kennel. His kennel is good. His kennel is safe. His kennel is his happy place.
5. Go to bed. No more talking, no more looking.
If Jet keeps asking to be let out, put a blanket over the kennel and give him another 5-10 minutes or so. If he keeps crying, startle him by tapping loudly on the kennel 3 times and saying, "Quiet." (DON'T say "NO!" the goal of this exercise is for Jet to understand that it's bed time and it's time to be quiet and settle down. This is a natural instinctual thing that all dogs know and can learn)
Once you startle him and he inevitably stops barking because he's trying to figure out what happened, keep ignoring him. DON'T say, "Good boy!" or anything. It's quiet time. It's sleep time. Be sure NOT to tap the kennel if he can see you doing it. You want to reinforce that it's not you doing it, it's "the blanket." When the blanket goes over the kennel, it's time to stop crying and go to sleep.
Other methods are just ignoring him entirely and being patient. That's really the only other method aside from the one I described above, but I will stress that if you haven't done much obedience training or Jet is very shy or reactive DO NOT USE THIS METHOD. Ignoring him will be much better for him.
If anyone disagrees with this method, please feel free to say something! This is a great open forum and we're all here to help.
Good luck! Don't forget the smell! Putting your smell (it's gotta be a dirty, worn, preferably with BO and everything) in the kennel/bed with him will really help his anxiety.
Last edited by MaddiLovesDogs; 09-29-2014 at 05:51 PM.