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Old 05-23-2014, 08:52 AM
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Have to vent somewhere. Grrrrr. As I may have mentioned somewhere on here 300 years ago I lost 7 stone with a well known diet club about 4 years ago. Took me 18 months. Never been so happy in my life. Was permenantly hungry and frozen but happy. I was 16 1/2 stone and a size 26 and had been for a good 15-20 years. Got down to 9 st 4 and a size 10.
Anywho.....no one told me how to keep it off once I got there. Ive gradually put 4 stone back on over the 4 years like a twit. Back up to 13 1/2 stone.
On Wednesday I went into a jewellers to look for an anniversary present and hubby decided to buy me a lovely bracelet at the same time (result! ha).
The sales lady is giving it all the usual sales crap, is this a gift for you blah blah blah then out of the blue says "so is this for when the little one comes?" I thought Id heard her wrong so i said pardon? "For when the baby comes?" I was so shocked I just said "no Im not". Queue ground open up and swallow me. To make it even better she then says, "Oh, dont worry, if anyone says that to me I just say Im fat". Thanks love.
I have never felt so embarrassed or stupid and downright awful in my life. 2 other people were standing listening. She then made a huge fuss of trying to get the bracelet on me while I was standing there like a giant plum trying not to cry.
This isnt the first time Ive had this but this time it was a shock because I didnt think I was that big and thought I was good at disguising it. Why do people feel when someone is overweight they have the right to comment? You wouldnt go up to a person and say blimey youre skinny/ugly/got a big nose etc. Makes my blood boil. I have been trying my best and have lost 5lbs so far this month. sorry to whinge but my husband cant understand why Im so upset. Still cross 2 days later! lol

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Old 05-23-2014, 10:23 AM

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Husbands wouldn't understand,i think it's a woman thing.I would love to put on weight ,what ever i do i never got beyond 7 and a half stone,and i've had people saying you look so thin are you ok ? my daughter takes after me and when she was at school they asked if she was anorexic ?? so you can't win.It's what's inside a person ,not how fat/thin they are.
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Aww, Michelle, arent people strange? When I got to my goal weight I had you look gaunt/old/ill from the same people that used to very kindly keep reminding me I was fat

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Old 05-23-2014, 10:54 AM

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As i've got older,i don't care anymore.People should think before they open their mouths but as you say people are very strange.If you're happy that's what counts,not what others think
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I know the feeling all too well. I thought this was just an American thing. I've gotten down to my goal weight, but have put it back on as well. It is always the same ones making comments about "you've put on weight" and/or "wow are you sick or something? Getting pretty skinny there." I think these people are just looking to make themselves feel good by trying to knock someone else down.

I have never in my life asked anyone if they were pregnant based on their looks. Besides just putting on weight, what if that person just miscarried or has a tumor (both of which I have seen)? We have the whole Freedom of Speech thing here, but that doesn't absolve you of being an idiot, a jerk, insensitive, or just plain stupid.
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Don't feel bad for her rudeness! Just have faith in yourself and keep doing what your doing to get healthier. And oh, don't believe for 1 second that people aren't rude like this towards skinny people. I'm 5' 3" 112 lbs and 31 yrs old. I had the flu a couple weeks ago and I dropped down to 107 (rarely ever get sick). Now anyone who has had the flu knows when you are that sick, constantly puking, dehydrated not eating solid foods etc, that you are GOING to lose weight. And yet people still make their comments. Believe in yourself and be secure with who you are. And most importantly don't change, unless it something that you want for yourself and for the benefit of a healthier life 😊


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I would have walked out. There is not way I would have given that woman any commission!

I too have heard comments, my whole life. I use to be able to eat anything and not gain a pound, so I'd get the "Why don't you eat something??" and when I hit my mid 20s I started slowly gaining, to where I'm now 35-40lbs over where I was in high school. Now everyone is concerned about my health b/c I've put on! Everyone has to make a comment - even my grandmother.

I try not to let it bother me. I'm living my life for me, not for everyone else. I'm working out to lose weight and gain muscle FOR ME No one else really matters. Neither does there opinion.

But yeah, TOTALLY would have left that lady hanging! What an idiot.
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I'm sorry you went through this, some people are so rude. It sounds like you put a lot of work into losing weight before so it must be upsetting enough to feel like you've taken a step back, let alone having this woman point it out to you in such an insensitive way. Try not let it bother you, this woman clearly has issues if she feels the need to treat people this way (especially customers who come into her store!).

Like others said, people do feel free to comment negatively on skinny people too though (and any other kind of things for that matter... people always find something worth criticising!). I have coeliac disease, but wasn't diagnosed until I was 26 and as a result I was very underweight before. I've had tons of people call me anorexic and say ridiculous things to me. Some of my nicknames in school were bag of bones and skeleton. LOL My previous boss actually bullied me (and a few other women at work) because she hates all skinny women (she even told us all thin women are dumb so she treated us as inferior).
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