Selma, she's just a baby, but I would think that she wants you more than anything else. Now for your concerns: I would still feed in the crate. Just say to her 'time to eat now' and close the door to the crate. I have a picky dog, who wants me in the room when she eats. (she has a severe overbite, and chokes on her food often?) As for food, pick a good quality food--kibble, frozen or air dried and get a little bit, and see which she likes. She may be a dog that likes kibble one day, and frozen the next? I would do what Ari suggested and put a blanket over the crate at night. Give her some toys (Kong toys are great--they have one for 'babies') She is only 9 weeks so really doesn't have much bladder or bowel control. If she is an only dog, you might leave some kibble in the pen (I have an Iris pen--love it. The pen is ideal 'cause you can see the pup, and she can see you. I put their crate/ carrier (ferret ones are great) in there along with water and a couple of chew toys.
You are a Mom, and I'm sure you have rules and regulations in your home. Just make sure this tiny little one has them too. No biting. Get something she likes like a washcloth folded up and frozen (helps teething) and get the kids if they are old enough to gently play with her--retrieving is great, a gentle tug is good too,
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