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Old 02-07-2018, 04:11 PM
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Default How to help adult chi to accept her little brother?

Hi Everybody,

I need an advice. It's been almost two months since Odie has come to live with us and our 5-year-old chi, Aria, still hasn't accepted him. She tolerates him, that's the best way to describe her behavior toward him. She's not aggressive, just ignores him. It's obvious he annoys the hell out of her and she simply doesn't like him. She's not interested in playing with him or cuddling and she occasionally snaps at him when he tries to lick her face. Most of the time she just pretends he doesn't exist and leaves when he comes near her or turns her back on him.

The only positive aspect of Odie's presence for Aria is an extra bowl of food she can steal from when no one is watching.

We followed all the rules when we first brought Odie home. We let them meet on neutral ground, showered Aria with extra attention, fed her first and did everything to let her know she's still our beloved little girl. In return, she was sulking for a month. Not only Odie but also we got a cold shoulder treatment. It took her weeks to come around and revert back to her old self but only to us. Odie is still persona non grata in Aria's universe.

It's heartbreaking because Odie is such a sweet, little guy. He only wants to be accepted and loved. He doesn't understand why she rejects him over and over again. Sometimes when he's super sneaky he manages to steal few minutes of cuddling until she wakes up.



What else can we do to help them to get along?

And please, excuse spelling and grammatical errors.
English is not my first language.

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Old 02-08-2018, 01:02 AM
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Welcome to the forum. First of all, your English and spelling are great!

Now as to the doggy issue: It has 2 months since you go the puppy. I would just let things be. Try and not interfere. He will win her over eventually. If you show her too much extra affection and food (I take it she steals his?) it may be just telling her she is too special to accept the puppy. Every time she does something nice with the puppy praise her. Do you walk them together? Any time you do something together it is good. I also would not let this pup have free run of the house. Invest in a pen (Iris pens are wonderful. and let him earn his way to freedom. JMO.
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Old 02-08-2018, 02:14 AM
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Welcome.

If she has been an "only child" up until this point, it's not surprising that it may take her a while to really accept the new puppy. Two months seems like forever to us, but it's really not very long in the whole scheme of things and not an unusual amount of time for dogs to adapt to each other. Not to mention, a young pup really just IS annoying to an adult dog many times, simply because they have different interests and energy levels. When we got Gizmo as a puppy, Tink took a couple weeks to really warm up to him and decide she loved him. When we got Finley as a puppy two years after that, it took Tink much longer...I don't recall exactly, but months seems about right before she would even go near him. Even now, they aren't exactly best friends...she will only snuggle with him if he squirms onto my lap while she's there and she is too stubborn to leave. They play occasionally, but it's not often and never lasts more than a couple minutes. But everyone gets along for the most part and sometimes that's all you can ask for.
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I agree with the others, two months isn't that long so I'm sure with time things will get better. Especially as Odie gets older and calms down a little. Puppies are so excited and often don't understand boundaries and that can be really annoying for adult dogs. The fact that she tolerates him despite that is a good start.

Anything that involves spending time or playing with both of them together (to encourage them to interact) could help. Like playing fetch with both at the same time, using treats as a reward if she's reluctant. Or hide treats around the house and get them to run around together to find them. Or make them do tricks together, using treats. Going for walks together. And praise her whenever she does interact with him.

Btw, they're both so so cute!!
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