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Old 08-02-2014, 07:34 PM
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First a little about myself:

I'm a 43 yr old male. Happily Married 18 yrs. My Kids:

18 yr old Male
16 yr old Female and 16 yr old Male twins
10 yr old Teacup Chihuahua (Misty)
9 yr old Deer Chihuahua (Patches sister to Misty a yr apart)
1 Yr Old Chug (Bella)

Been raised on the old idiom a man does not cry. A man is seen as the strong one in a situation and is there to help comfort the others.

I'm sad to say after a 3 year Battle with seizures we lost Misty to a stroke the other night.



I try to keep my head held up and be the strong one but when I sit idle and alone I cant seem to stop crying. My friends and Co-workers all remark how happy she always was and that they could tell she was loved so much by us. But I keep thinking selfishly of how I am alone. I know I still have my other 2 and I'm trying my best to keep my attention on them...but everytime I look at my Pillows or Misty's Blankets, my world comes crashing down again. I hold my head high knowing I gave her a much loved and terrific home and I KNOW for a fact she was happy. I'm proud and extremely grateful I gave her a non-abusive home and she lived with her head held high.

How do you manage? Why does it seem a HUGE part of my heart was ripped away? Why can't I move on? Why can't I be happy in the fact I gave her a good life and my selfishness just wants her back?

Thank you all in advance
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I'm so sorry for your loss,it is still early days for you,and you need to grieve .So many of us on here have lost a much loved dog,so we know what your going through.I lost mine just over a year ago and i think of him every day.
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So sorry to hear about Misty. So many of us have gone through the same thing. You do survive. Grieve at your own time. Some of us get another dog right away, some wait, and some never get another. I am one of the former. I get another one the next week, if I can. If you gave Misty a great home, and you did, then go from there.
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She was a big part of your life and has left a big hole. Everything you are feeling is completely normal, you can't fight it or rush it, you just have to feel it. It does get easier to bear, you just need to give yourself time to grieve. You obviously loved her very much xxx
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Thank you everyone.

I did get some good news. After her Stroke we had exhausted our savings account on the Vet so we were forced to abandon our dream of keeping her with us always by way of Cremation. We are in an Apartment complex so burying her closeby was a no go.

Today, I can believe in God again.

I received a call today from someone who does Cremations in a nearby town. An Anonymous Facebook Friend of mine contacted them and everything is paid for, I just need to show up Monday to have it done and pick an Urn of my choice (no price limit)

I have always been the one to give my shirt off my back and never ask for anything (except Advice) so it stuns me someone could be so kind in return. My wife and I both cried tears of joy today cause Misty will be back with us again. Just in a different way. Upon the news, I could think clearly for the first time in 2 days.

Thank you all so much
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So sorry for your loss of Misty, losing a pet is the hardest pain. Your news on her cremation is so comforting for you, I wish you peace. x
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I am so sorry for your loss. As everyone else has said, it is ok to feel as you do and you will work through it. So glad you were rescued by your facebook friend and Misty is coming back to you. Breathe, your other 2 are there for you! Let them help you through this!. (and they need you to help them through the loss of Misty too!).

It came to me that every time I lose a dog they take a piece of my heart with them, and every new dog who comes into my life gifts me with a piece of their heart. If I live long enough all the components of my heart will be dog, and I will become as generous and loving as they are. - Anonymous
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Thank You everyone for your kind words.

Misty is back with us today. I have her in Cold Storage as I cant get to the place until Monday. My friend had buried her on his Property Fri Morning. He went to unbury her this am and found the hole had been dug up and Misty lying nearby. She is FULLY intact though and my wife and I just said she wanted out in the sun to Sun Bathe (she LOVED to lay in the sun).

Having her back though, makes me feel better like I can get some closure. Still a bit tough but easier to manage. Thank you all for your kind advice. My Chug comes running like a Highball express when I get Teary Eyed and she does her best to comfort me.
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