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Hey guys!

I have never told you guys before, because I thought you might wont like Bentley anymore.
Well,...our problem is:
Bentely doesnt allowe anyone (but me) to come to him when he has a snack or lays down. He sometimes attacted my husband, Leah & Jonah for no reason :cry:
It seemd liked we are getting it under control, but its getting worse and not better :? :(
Yesterday he bite my Leahbaby so hard, that she was bleeding bad on her finger... Today Jonahs face right next to his little nose :cry:
And almost everyday he jumps on my husband...and gets really mean and bites him hard.
Hes about to loose patience with Bentley...Hes really upset with him. When Bentely keeps it up, he wants him to be gone. :cry:

I love Bentely and I wish I would finally get better..I am tryinng my best. But I understand my husband...hurting our kids so BAD and him..isnt right.
Now, of course hes worried that Laramy could be like him too...

I am so sad and confused...dont know what to do.
Anybody advice for us??? :cry: :cry:

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Nadine.
 

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If bentley doesnt have a problem with you... its abvious hes jelous of others near you. Was he well socialised with others out and in your household? Your children are number 1 obviously and this can become very serious... it would be extremly difficult living with a dog that doesnt like your children/partner, it is also extremly risky and unsafe for your children!
Nobody on this site is not going to dislike your dog because of his behavouir problems... theres plenty of people here with the same problem... or chis that have pee'in problem... eatin problems and all sorts do dont ever think your alone and hestitate to ask for our advice and help as were here for that.. and would never think lower of your chi. NO CHI IS PERFECT!
As for getting this prob sorted... i would say its SOCIALISATON... if thats a real word? To me.. it means to be more socialised! As Im unsure if its you but if it is???... your considering a new puppy in the near future... and bently may become vicious towards the pup and that would be more on your plate then you already have. I dont have social tips for dogs.. but I would recommend puppy classes... and also (I assume your the feeder and feed the dog) therefore you are his number one love.. let your children feed him and your partner... let them give him treats and you tell him off when hes naughty. It may be hard but them doing the positive and you doing the negative should increase his liking for them... then when he is comfortable with them... (may take a while.. not over night obviously) feed him together... praise him.. walk him do all the things good together (with yourself/children and partner) and he should then form love for the whole family! If he does get vicious with others and seeks your attention simply ignore him... move him away from you.. and tell him No firmly!
xxxxxxxx Hope any of that helps...
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Hi!

Well, I do go for walks everytime with my children.
I let my daughter feed him snacks and cheese.
In the evenings my husband walks him (alone) so they have some time together.

I think...at about this time...he is putting everyone on a rank. And thats why he trys to fight his way up.
So I decided to not let him on the couch no more...so everyone is higher than he is. That he has to "look up" to them and pays them respect.

I have lots of experiences with dogs and never had problems. Well I have never had kids and a husband neither :D

The breeder (Bentleys) hasnt really trained them...they barked because of everything...Not anymore...He was allowed to snap at the husband and her. ...So she told me!

I thinks its all a question of be being socialised and being trained. And both he wasnt very well =O(

The problem is A Hes VERY jelouse B He things hes boss. Other than that he is the best doggy ever. He sleeps in bed with us. He wants so sit close to us all the time. He kisses the kids, my husband and me. He waits in front of the tub until I am done showerin...Hes a dream!

So we will work on it & hope it will change for the best!!!

With Laramy I am putting my hopes up, that he´ll focus a bit more on him. That they can power each other out and go crazy with eachother. I know that Bentley used to be one of the dogs, that would play all day with his brother...so mabye he misses that too!

Wish us luck guys! AND THANK YOU!


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I really don't feel qualified to give you advice on this, but did want to let you know this is not all that unusual with chis. They are by nature very protective and can become extremely attached to one person in the household. So please don't feel that we won't like Bentley. He has a problem that needs work, that doesn't make him any less loveable.

I tend to agree that puppy classes would be an excellent idea. The training would be most helpful, as well as him learning to socialize with other pets. Maybe someone else on the forum can help give you some advice also.

Good luck, and remember, we are here to offer our support any way we can.
 

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Hi guys!

I just wrote the breeder.
What she thinks...and that he must of showed these "actions" before we gotten him.
If she thinks, that he doesnt feel comfortable in a family and if it would be better for him at a single household???
If there is a change he´ll change or if thats just the way he is...
One messed up thing after the other :cry: :cry: :cry:
It bothers me so bad, I had sharp cheast pains all day long :(

I really want to know what she´ll say!

xx

Sad greetings from a rainy Germany,

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He has dominance issues!! The thinks he is the alpha with everyone but you, cause he knows you are the alpha. You need to start crate training him, that when he bites your husband have your husband grab his muzzle firmly and tell him NO BAD DOG. Then have him roll him on his back until he stops struggling then place him in his crate. Do not pay any attention to him for 1 hour or so. Then have your husband take him out. This way he gets the idea that your husband is in charge. If your husband works, then when he get home and if Bentley is being naughty then it should be your husband that disciplines him. As for the kids, you need to do the above steps to protect your kids. :wink: I had to get rid of a male I got that bit my little girl on the finger and she had to get stitches. I did not want to work with him over my anger of biting my daughter. :?
 

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Hi!

Thanks for your advice...
Thats how I feel angry...I am angry with me...I am angry with the breeder that should of told me about it...angry that is hansnt gotten any better, eventhough I did work against it from the beginning on...and angry with Bentley that he keeps hurting my babys :cry:

I couldnt talk to him for at least an hour when he bite my Leah so bad..She cryed and kept saying she just wanted to pet him ..that her finger hurts so bad and that it burns... :(

We do all the things you said. But when Bentley gets started NO ONE can touch him, but me.
He practically jumps at my husband...barking, biteing etc :? :? When the kids are arround he bites them too...


Gosh I am so depressed!

Still no answer from the breeder yet :(

Bye for now,

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Im sure no one here thinks bad of Bentley! Hes a puppy and needs to know that he isnt in charge of everyone. The puppy class sounds a good idea. If i was you then i definately wouldnt get another puppy until you have Bentley how you want him to be. I really think another puppy would add to your stress and not help things.
 

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KJsChihuahuas said:
He has dominance issues!! The thinks he is the alpha with everyone but you, cause he knows you are the alpha. You need to start crate training him, that when he bites your husband have your husband grab his muzzle firmly and tell him NO BAD DOG. Then have him roll him on his back until he stops struggling then place him in his crate. Do not pay any attention to him for 1 hour or so. Then have your husband take him out. This way he gets the idea that your husband is in charge. If your husband works, then when he get home and if Bentley is being naughty then it should be your husband that disciplines him. As for the kids, you need to do the above steps to protect your kids. :wink: I had to get rid of a male I got that bit my little girl on the finger and she had to get stitches. I did not want to work with him over my anger of biting my daughter. :?
Very, very good advice. I know how difficult and sad this is for you. Hopefully you can help him get over this with time. Bentley does need to know his place, as much as you love him you must be firm.
IF in fact, you can get him over this, you will have (believe it or not) a happier dog. I really hope he doesn't injure your children more than he has :( I am so sad for you. I hope everything works out for you Unique.
 

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HI :wave: I had that same promble with my first chi he hate loud noies so every time he would bite me i would scream real loud and then say no bite. Its been 4 mos and no biting.
 

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Cooper went to "manners" class when he was a puppy and I learned the easiest way to take dominance away from your dog is with their food.

What the instructor had us do was at dinner time, get the food bowl ready. When you go to feed the dog, make him/her sit down a few feet away. Put the bowl down and, if the dog runs to the bowl, pick it back up. Basically, you are training the dog to wait until YOU tell him or her they can eat. We were told to let the dog eat once they lost interest in the bowl and looked at you. (I loved that part - Cooper seemed to be saying "hey! What gives here?")

The first time, you make them wait about 10 seconds before they can go to their bowl then you lengthen the time they sit by 10 more seconds until you hit a minute or two. (I didn't do this with Cooper because he wasn't dominant.) Eventually, they learn you control their dinner, therefore you control the pack.

If you try it, you may want to have your kids be the ones "in charge" so Bentley learns they're a few steps above in the pack structure.

I agree with puppy classes as well. Especially with the new puppy coming into the household. Socialization is key, especially with the little dogs that will bite and bark out of fear.

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I'm sad for your children to have to go through this. I too agree that you need to get him into some kind of puppy classes... The food idea is wonderful.. It will make him undestand that he is not the leader. I hope you get this undercontrol soon... Bringing a new pup into this situation is not good... The new pup will most likely take after the actions that are already in the household.

Good luck and God bless.
 

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stefanie_farrell said:
If bentley doesnt have a problem with you... its abvious hes jelous of others near you. Was he well socialised with others out and in your household? Your children are number 1 obviously and this can become very serious... it would be extremly difficult living with a dog that doesnt like your children/partner, it is also extremly risky and unsafe for your children!
Nobody on this site is not going to dislike your dog because of his behavouir problems... theres plenty of people here with the same problem... or chis that have pee'in problem... eatin problems and all sorts do dont ever think your alone and hestitate to ask for our advice and help as were here for that.. and would never think lower of your chi. NO CHI IS PERFECT!
As for getting this prob sorted... i would say its SOCIALISATON... if thats a real word? To me.. it means to be more socialised! As Im unsure if its you but if it is???... your considering a new puppy in the near future... and bently may become vicious towards the pup and that would be more on your plate then you already have. I dont have social tips for dogs.. but I would recommend puppy classes... and also (I assume your the feeder and feed the dog) therefore you are his number one love.. let your children feed him and your partner... let them give him treats and you tell him off when hes naughty. It may be hard but them doing the positive and you doing the negative should increase his liking for them... then when he is comfortable with them... (may take a while.. not over night obviously) feed him together... praise him.. walk him do all the things good together (with yourself/children and partner) and he should then form love for the whole family! If he does get vicious with others and seeks your attention simply ignore him... move him away from you.. and tell him No firmly!
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stephanie being so young and not owning a chi ....you always give damn good advices :D

kisses nat


ps i would really see a behaviour specialist !!!!
 
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