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Desparate to Co-Exist. Need advice...

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First off, let me say that I do not dislike chihuahuas or dogs in general.

That said let me explain my situation a bit.

I got married about 8 months ago (28M, 33F). My fiance has a 3 year old chihuahua, Pete. I knew she had the dog but we did not live together before getting married. I have never been much of an animal person but from what I saw of the dog I did not thinking sharing a house with him would be too difficult.

I was wrong. For the past 8 months I have tried everything to come to terms with the fact that this dog will be in my life for a LONG time to come. My wife adores him, calls him her "son". We have spent a lot of money to get him trained and it got better but he is still so willful.

My issues:

1. CONSTANT following, staring, being underfoot when she is not there.
2. Does not listen, very stubborn.
3. REFUSES to poop or pee in the cold, the instant we let him in, he goes.
4. Constant jumping in my lap, getting hair all over me. I am mildly allergic too.


I could go on and on. I guess what I want / need to know is how can I get the dog to understand that I am to be left alone? I have never and would never mistreat the dog but I really do not want to be my wife's stand in when she is away. I have discussed these issues with her and she cannot get past the fact that some people are just not animal people. I really cannot stand the constant following, lap jumping, etc. He even tries to get into the bathroom AND shower when I try to use them!!!

Please give advice on I how I can co-exist with this dog. What I want is to have minimal interaction.

Thanks...
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as much as i agree...its probably not the solution right now....from no dog to dogs? baby steps, they need to learn to co exist then work on geting a friend for pete
Well we spoke a bit about it today he's spending 2 weeks at my house over Christmas it'll be his first time spending more than a night with them you know ninja is not a people person at all he prefers to only stick with me and usually won't look at new people that come over but my bf some how the very first time meeting ninja had him on his lap and petting him lol truly a miracle he must be a keeper! I told him I'm willing to compromise on anything he doesn't like about the dogs and will work to train them out of any habits he doesn't agree with too well see what happens about the dogs sleeping in. The bed thin over Xmas baby barly sleeps in my bed these days but ninja is half hairless so he freezes his bity off at night and loves to be on my bed bc I have a heated blanket lol he Said he's more concerned about squishing them but well see I'm open to compromise chihuahuas are such a handful for a dog very needy I understand totally if it becomes too much for him

I hope everything works out for you!
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as much as i agree...its probably not the solution right now....from no dog to dogs? baby steps, they need to learn to co exist then work on geting a friend for pete
Exactly. I am not sure I could handle another just yet.
LOL - that's why I said doesn't everybody want another one? Want and need are definitely two different things. I know my limit for sure and that's the two that I have. And yes, I agree adding another one would just cause more trouble for you at this point. :)
You sound like my sister. When she moved back home after a breakup she had to put up with my chihuahuas. She hates dogs and hair. Chihuahua will climb on your lap and cuddle in next to you and follow you around. Have you tried giving in and letting the little guy into your heart? You should see my dad with my chis, they're all on him at once!!

My chi's ask to go toilet then take one look outside and if it's raining turn around and head back inside. In those situations I go out in the garden with them. I carry them out, shut the door and stand there in the cold and rain with them. They soon learn and just do it.

I can't really offer more advice than that. People who don't like animals much are biarre to me. Not being nasty but it's just weird to me. The best thing about a chi is when they're all curled up nice and warm on your lap. Pete obviously likes you or he wouldn't come to you for a snuggle.
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I agree, not a good time for two!! But being a dog lover, isn't hard to think how you could not love 'em!!;)
Anyway, ultimately, each set of circumstances is unique and we must each find our own solutions.
Good luck to you. I am sure everything will work out!
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