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So I'm debating about starting a search for a playmate for Jax.

Here is the situation. While Mimi and Jax sleep together and coexist, they do
not play together. Mimi has lots of issues, and she screams and cries every
time Jax tries to play with her. If he starts running or anything that looks as
if he's trying to play, she starts clawing at me to pick her up. It's to the
point now where she is urinating on herself when he tries to play with her.

Both of my dogs are walked at least once a day, most of the time twice for
at least 30 mins. I constantly work with Mimi. She does not have any
medical issues, and she has been seen by a behavior specialist. I love them
both very much and I'm want to do what's best for BOTH of them.

I'm wondering if I get another Chi that is around his same age ( 11 months ),
he will have someone to play with and she won't be an issue. IF I do get
another Chi, it would be a rescue, for me personally, that is the only way.



Any thoughts ? Anyone else have a similar situation ?
 

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Well, I seem to think differently than a lot of people. I will tell you what our world is like and what has worked for us.

We got Hope first. She was a wild child. She about wore us out. We knew we wanted another but thought we should wait until she was a year. Then people here with much more experience said often it is easier to get them closer in age than that. So, we did. Their personalities are VERY different. Ruby calmed Hope down and Hope forced Ruby to not be a doormat.

We got Eden after the older two had been together 8 months. As you know they are all female. Most people suggest mixing gender for best results. Somehow, we do great.

Right now, 2 are snuggled in one bed together but an hour ago those same two were stealing antlers from each other and someone likely got a snap to share her feelings about it. They sort of take turns playing together and sleeping together. They love each other, look around for each other, annoy each other and keep each other in check.

I, personally, could not manage more than our 3, but since they are all so different, it is like we have all of our bases covered-one who can self manage, one who is needy, one who likes to always be held and so on.
 

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My only worry is that they both may try to play with Mimi, in which case she'd have "double trouble".

With my 3, the 2 normals/standards usually rough each other up in play, sleep together etc. & leave the "tiny" to himself. Occasionally they all play together but it often times ends up with both biggies on top of the tiny - he's a feisty little so and so and lets them both know when to back off. He's not afraid at all, it's just the other 2 pretty much leave him alone because he seems more of a loner. He does, however, often instigate play with them when he feels like it. If he has a treat, neither of the other 2, not even acting in unison, can take it from him. Mimi sounds like she may have even more trouble dealing with the dynamics of x 3.

Being that you would wonderfully take on a rescue, would it be possible to trial a dog for a couple/few weeks to see how she goes. A lot of the mainstream shelters here, you walk in, pay $400 for a dog and problem no longer belongs to them. The smaller ones often times make you take them for weeks on a Foster basis until they decide whether or not they'll let you keep the dog - also a difficult situation imo.
 

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Christa, I'm sorry I cannot give you any helpful advise, but I know you certainly know what is best. Can't wait to see what you decide! :)
 

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First, thank you all for taking the time to reply. You guys had some GREAT
advice!

I "borrowed" a friends dog that is about the same age as Jax, he's a
yorkie/JRT mix, and he's about 18lbs so much bigger than Jax. I was a little
nervous at first, but Jax had SO MUCH FUN playing with Harry. They ran all
day and night inside and out, and surprisingly most of the time Jax seemed to
be "winning" all the play fighting despite being smaller.

As for Mimi, she allowed Harry to smell her and she interacted a little bit with
him, but most of the time she just sat on my lap or beside me and barked at
them when they were playing.

I only had him for one full day/night and half of the next day, but it
went very well and kind of gave me hope. Jax had so much fun playing and
Mimi didn't seem too bothered by it.
 

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Wonderful news. Then it all seems to be ok, except I would certainly keep the girl out of harms way of the other x 2 on the occasions you have to go out etc.
 

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Christa, a rescued Chi would simply be in heaven in your home. You are such a
caring pet owner, it would be a very lucky pup to have you as his/her mom. I
definitely think it might work out not only in Jax's favor but in Mimi's as well,
because Jax might get a playing buddy and will therefore leave Mimi alone. Of
course nothing is certain, which is why I think the fostering idea is brilliant.
Whatever you decide I wish you good luck and hope everything works out for
the best. Keep me updated! ;)
 

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I was going to say that Id worry that she would be doubly stressed by two pups running wild, but it sounds like from your overnight guest that she doesnt mind a bit. As long as she isnt more overwhelmed by a third it seems like it would be a good solution. Going through a rescue as opposed to a shelter would be your best option I think because theyll be able to give you a lot of info on the new dog and can help you to ensure a good match for all pups involved.
 

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That was a really great idea to borrow a dog from a friend! It sounds like the right dog would make things better for both Mimi and Jax. There is a dog out there somewhere who is about to be very lucky!
 

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I don't really know your dogs' personalities and such, but I'd think she is showing signs of fear and submission towards Jax. When Lacey first met my mum's Cavalier King Charles Spaniel boys, she would urinate and cower. She'd run and hide and try to use me as her "safety net." She's okay with the smaller of the boys, now, but the bigger one is SO in her face and barking and obnoxious that she doesn't know how to handle the commotion and attention he creates. I don't know if something similar is in the works with Jax?
A new friend could either be great or disastrous. You were wise to do a "test run" with your friend's dog! I would try to find a rescue that would allow you to do the same with a potential adoptee. I know some around here give you two weeks to see if the dog is right for your family. :)
 

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We have a pet rescue here that does slumber parties with the dogs kinda like keep the dog for the weekend so a try before you adopt thing which I think is awesome. My friend has adopted 2 going this route.
 

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Cheryl - you are so awesome, and Benji is so freakin cute!

All night Sunday after our "loaner dog" was gone, Jax kept running
around the house looking for him, which made me think even more that he
needs a playmate.

I've put the word out to a local rescue that I work with that I would like
to foster a Chi and maybe if it's a good fit keep him/her, and I'm looking
around at other rescues to check their policies. Although my humans are
less than thrilled with me getting another one. :rolleyes:
 
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