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I have had my puppy for almost four months now. We got her with her sister, who died in a freak way only 12 days after we got her. Our puppy, Jasmine, was not very friendly with us from the start. She always preferred her sister or our other dog, a Yorkie, Spike, to us. She just kept to herself for the most part.

Since her sister died, she has opened up a little to us. But not at all like a normal dog, doting on us and loving us. She will come to us, but runs if we try to touch her. She will sit with us, but only if we have a blanket for her to snuggle under. She follows me all over, but will not let me touch her. She acts afraid of us, but will sleep with us at night (which we don't let her do for very long. She sleeps in her crate at night) We are litter box training her, which seems to be going well, but we are so unhappy that she does not really love us. We have never had experience with a Chi before so we don't really know how normal this is. she is also afraid of her collar. If I put it on her she will shake and shiver until I take it off. Right now she does not go outside, due to the cold weather, but at some point I will want to put a leash on her and take her outside. I cannot do this if she will not wear a collar. I hate to make her do anything, since she doesn't like us much to begin with.

Do I have a seriously messed up dog? After the tragedy of her sister dying, this is really hard to take. Any help would be appreciated. :( :( :(
 

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there are more specialised people here to give you advice on this, but i just wanted to say welcome :wave: and i hope you can get her to trust you and love you, because this is definitely not normal chi-behaviour

kisses nat
 

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that is soo sad.....i sure she will come around. she is just probably upset that her sister is no longer with her. How did she die if you dont mind me asking?
 

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:? Sorry to hear that...a few things that could matter would be..where did you get her from? maybe she was being abused there..How did her sister died? maybe she saw it or whatever and doesn't trust you..and finally, is not really normal unless the dog has been traumatized somehow..chis are extremely loving dogs and usually is a pain to get them to leave you alone (they always wanna be huggin' or kissin') but there are a few not so friendly and very defensive cases...maybe if you expand on her story so far you will be able to get better advice :wink: :wave: Good luck tho and you should drop by the newbie section and maybe post some pics :D we love pics! :D
 

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she was playing with us and then she had some sort of siezure and died right then and there. It was awful and the vet examined her and just said she had not hurt her head or anything. I did not get an autopsy done, so I will never know. I got her at a pet store (I know...I should have known better) and when I went back to them they refused to replace her or give me a refund, since I could not prove she was sickly. She loved us soooo much and as much as I love little Jasmine, my Chloe actually loved me back!! Our hearts were broken, so this situataion with Jasmine is just so hard to take. The vet did say it was not impossible for a tiny puppy to die in a freak way like she did. I was concerned that if there was something wrong with her, maybe her sister Jasmine might be ill also. So far the vet cannot tell that anything is wrong. Chloe checked out fine with the vet too.
 

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in response to where she was when Chloe died...she was in the crate sleeping, having decided to be alone, which was not unusal for her. I don't thing she was being abused, since Chloe came from the same place...but I would not know for sure. Again, she loves us, but will not let us go to her. She acts alot like my cats, she does what she wants, when she wants, including loving us. She does not kiss us much either. If we put our hand in front of her mouth she will lick us, but never on our face. She does not like our faces near her.. It is soooo heartbreaking. I am about to cry just telling you about it. :cry:
 

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I am soo sorry to hear that..i feel your pain a few years ago i had a mini pinscher that died 10 days after i got him. The vet had told me i had purchased a sick dog and wrote me a letter of an unfit for puchase dog. The place i got him from refused to give me a refund to. Luckily I had purchased the puppy on my american express card i called them and explained the situation and they were able to get my refund back for me.
 

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I purchased mine with my Mastercard. I wonder if it is too late to complain to them and do the same thing. This was back in November. I spent $1200 on the two dogs and the fact that she died was bad enough, but the loss of the money just makes me sick to this day!!!
 

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Our first chi 20yrs ago was like Jasmine, just be patient & give her time, you'll find as she gets older she will love you more.You have all been through alot & she must be feeling some of the sadness surrounding her sisters loss as chis are sensitive to our feelings as well.
Just love her & play with her & a bond will form.
 

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No it can never be to late....get paper work from your vet and they probably ask for copies of everything to review it and then they will start investigaiting. Its worth a try! Most states have puppy lemon laws that if antything happens in 14 days (besides hypoglycemia)they have to refund for the cost of the pup. Talk to your vet about getting a "unfit for sale letter" also.
 

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I'm so sorry about the loss of your little Chi. Did the Vet say anything about her havng "Hydrocephalic"?? Sometimes this will cause a sudden seisure that will be fatal? It is water on the brain. Has the Vet checked your "Chloe"? are they sisters? I also have a Chi named Chloe :D As far as the collar, my Bruiser would shake and cry when we started to put a collar on him. He eventually would let us. We would make him wear it about 15minutes a day till he got used to it. Hope this helps....hang in there. :) sandra
 

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Your puppy sounds like she wants to love you but is afraid to really open up. She shows her trust in you by coming and snuggling up, but it is on her terms, not yours. She follows you around but doesn't want to be picked up. She wants to sleep with you, after you are settled in. She licks you but never your face. She kind of sounds like a "rescue Chi" in behavior.

Also, remember that a 4 month Chi is a teenager and probably acting like one. (If that helps to put it in perspective.)

Just keep on loving her, letting her come to you on her terms, and you willl notice that it is more often and just MORE. Keep a blanket handy and put it over your legs. She'll come snuggle with you. While she snuggles, just keep running your fingers lightly over her back, rubbing behind her ears, etc. My Dobbie loves a little "massage" all down his back.
 

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Hi there and I am sorry to here about your loss. My name is Lori and I have been breeding and showing Chihuahua for about 15yrs and do the chihuahua rescue for Idaho. Seems if you got her from a pet store that she may have come from a "Puppy Mill". Or a "backyard" Breeder. When these people breed their dogs, they never breed for temperament, only for money. And that is why we have such poorly socialized and sick Chihuahuas out there. If one of your babies died out of no where and you only had her for that short of time, then if it was a reputable breeder she/he would have given you a replacement puppy. As for you little one being so timid, there are a question I have for you if you dont mind?

1. How old was she when you got her?


I and everyone here are going to do everything we can to help you :wink:
 

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Your puppy's behavior kind of sounds like that of a "rescue Chi." She will follow you around but doesn't want to be picked up. She will snuggle, after you are settled down. She wants to sleep with you, after you are settled down. She will lick you, but not your face.

She apparently trusts you, and now it's time to build on that trust. When you settle on the sofa, keep a blanket handy and put it across your legs. She will come and settle down beside you. Then keep running your fingers lightly over her back, head, etc. My Dobbie (rescue Chi) loves to have a little back massage.

Just keep showing her affection and let her keep coming to you. It will happen.
 

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KJsChihuahuas said:
Hi there and I am sorry to here about your loss. My name is Lori and I have been breeding and showing Chihuahua for about 15yrs and do the chihuahua rescue for Idaho. Seems if you got her from a pet store that she may have come from a "Puppy Mill". Or a "backyard" Breeder. When these people breed their dogs, they never breed for temperament, only for money. And that is why we have such poorly socialized and sick Chihuahuas out there. If one of your babies died out of no where and you only had her for that short of time, then if it was a reputable breeder she/he would have given you a replacement puppy. As for you little one being so timid, there are a question I have for you if you dont mind?

1. How old was she when you got her? she was 8 weeks old when I got her


I and everyone here are going to do everything we can to help you :wink:
 

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Have you had her checked by a vet?
Since my Koke has come down with a skin problem I did a lot of research about it. It seems to me that I read where there was a condition where the dog was experiencing pain when touched due to a skin problem. If she doesn't seem afraid of you other wise, I would definatley get her checked out.
Explain to the vet carefully what she is doing and how she reacts to different things.
 

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I am new here, and also new to chihuahua parenting, but I thought I'd share with you another site which I have found helpful. The site has animal behaviorists and other experts to answer the difficult questions. It is called DoggieDoor.com and you might get some good info from them.
 

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I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your little one :(

re Jasmine , I know it seems really tough and upsetting but like some other people on here have said just give her time and love and finaly i'm sure she will be ok and will love you back ... sorry your having a tough time .. re the collar and lead if it upsets her , right now i'd not even try to get her used to it , i wouldn't want to upset her in any other way ..

once again sorry and i'm thinking of you {{{hugs}}}}

Sara xx
 
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