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Jasmine does not seem to be coming around at all. Is it possible to have a dog who just doesn't care much for people? She still follows me around and even jumps up on my legs with happiness when I come home ( or even out of the shower for that matter!) but does not want to be held AT ALL. I have managed to catch her and hold her and show her how I would pet and love on her if she would let me hold her, and I think this has made it worse. She will not jump in my lap at all now...except for in the evenings and then she will sleep under a blanket on my lap. Actually if I have a blanket and sit or lay during the day, she will sleep with me then (this NEVER happens, for the most part, since I am not doing that in the day) but just runs from all of us like she is scared. We are so unhappy to have a dog that does not love us. We are considering another puppy, just so we can have one that really fulfills our need to be loved. I know Jasmine will love that puppy more than us too, but I really don't think she is going to change. any help or thoughts on this??? :cry:
 

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Sorry if I'm repeating something someone else already said but...
Maybe before she came to live with you she was traumatized in some way while being held. It doesn't sound at all like she doesn't love you. It just sounds like she doesn't want to be held.

If you had another puppy maybe she would see that holding is a good thing. Sometimes dogs learn from each other and it certainly wouldn't be a bad thing if she loved the other puppy a great deal. I think though that if you get another, you have to be very careful not to take away any of Jasmine's attention and still keep working patiently with her.
 

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Frasier's Mommy said:
Sorry if I'm repeating something someone else already said but...
Maybe before she came to live with you she was traumatized in some way while being held. It doesn't sound at all like she doesn't love you. It just sounds like she doesn't want to be held.

If you had another puppy maybe she would see that holding is a good thing. Sometimes dogs learn from each other and it certainly wouldn't be a bad thing if she loved the other puppy a great deal. I think though that if you get another, you have to be very careful not to take away any of Jasmine's attention and still keep working patiently with her.

agreed :)
 

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Can you lay down on the floor and cuddle her without picking her up off the floor? Some pups are worried about being off the ground :? It's a hard problem, but I would tryb getting down to her level more.
 

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Here is a link for you to look at. http://www.digitaldog.com/behaviorintro.html

You might want to see if there is a behaviorist in your area.
It sound to me like you need to gain her trust. She is probably used to not being the top dog and doesn't understand that it is ok for her to top dog now.

Instead of using a coller on her, get a harness and get her used to it. She's probably not going to like it or understand it when you first put it on her.
Put it on then start playing with her. Ignore her reaction to the harness and intice her to play and forget about the harness. Take it off after about 10 minutes and continue playing. The next day leave it on a little longer, but continue playing with her.

After she gets comfortable with the harness you can start teaching her things like sit and stay. This will help to build her confidence.

Also be sure to give her LOTS of praise when she does good things, ANYTHING that is good. Even playing fetch or playing tug of war. ESPECIALLY when she comes to you.
 

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Some pups are worried about being off the ground


in a few training books i've read it states that when you lift a dog off the ground it's a dominance thing. i just remembered that.

i'd definitly recommend seeing a behavior specialist. i got the pleasure to talk to one about my tasha birds obsessive compulsive disorder and her stress anxiety/seperation anxiety (luckily for me it was at a veterinary seminar so it was an hour of free advice. she was such a tough case they wanted me to bring her so they could study and learn from her...) her advice helped a lot. there a some that offer free initial consultations. talk to your vet.

another thing i wanted to say is, don't be afraid to ask advice of your veterinarian, they actually like that you make initiative to learn more about your pet's and don't worry about sounding dumb or feel that you are bothering them. if you feel like that when consulting your vet then you need to find a better one. and don't worry about taking too much time either, a good vet won't mind answering some extra questions and guiding you in the right direction...
 

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Forgive me if this has been covered and ruled out, but since you say she seems to adore you most of the time (jumps ups on you with happiness) but just doesn't like being held -- have you had her vet-checked for skin problems? Since she will cuddle under a blanket with you and seems to want your attention, it sounds to me like it's being touched that is the problem. She may have some kind of skin irritation that makes it painful to be held? I've told the story before about my friend's cat who was the meanest beast ever made til the vet found out he had allergies that made his skin irritated -- once on allergy meds, that was the sweetest, all-the-time-wanting-to-be-cuddled cat ever. Just a thought.
 

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just to let everyone know, we found another puppy and are going to get it tomorrow. I know it seems kind of sudden, but we still miss our little Chloe and always wanted two puppies. I figured it was better sooner than later. Maybe Jasmine will come out of her shell a little with a new sister. We are not getting another Chi, since I am worried about getting another one with the same issues as Jasmine. This puppy is part Yorkie and part Westie and just adorable. I hope she will love us and our Spike (male Yorkie) and Jasmine too. Wish me luck! :)
 

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Frasier's Mommy said:
Sorry if I'm repeating something someone else already said but...
Maybe before she came to live with you she was traumatized in some way while being held. It doesn't sound at all like she doesn't love you. It just sounds like she doesn't want to be held.

If you had another puppy maybe she would see that holding is a good thing. Sometimes dogs learn from each other and it certainly wouldn't be a bad thing if she loved the other puppy a great deal. I think though that if you get another, you have to be very careful not to take away any of Jasmine's attention and still keep working patiently with her.

Great advise! I agree 100% :D
 

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How exciting to be going to get a new pup! :p Westies and Yorkies don't shed, and a mix of those two won't either---that's a nice plus. :) Be sure to post pics---and keep us updated on how Jasmine adjusts to her new sister.
 

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Tuckers mom, what else do you know about Westies? I read a little on them but would really like to find out from someone who knows; what they are like. the breeder does not have one, she has the dad (yorkie) but told me this puppy is sweet and really laid back. Can anyone tell me a little more about a Westie?
 

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Jasmine's mom said:
Tuckers mom, what else do you know about Westies? I read a little on them but would really like to find out from someone who knows; what they are like. the breeder does not have one, she has the dad (yorkie) but told me this puppy is sweet and really laid back. Can anyone tell me a little more about a Westie?

i know it's a very popular dog at my job. there are a lot of westie patients we have and i've never met a mean one yet! and they are smart as well. i'm not sure about breed specific health problems though.
 

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I know a couple of people who own Westies, but I don't know anything about the breed other than they don't shed. (I found that out while doing a bit of research one day about dogs in general). :)
 
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