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I just found out my B/f whos planning to move in with me once the apt is finnihsed is being switched from the 10am-7pm shift to the 3pm-midnight shift at his job, his work is an hour away, what does this mean?! it means im barley gonna see him *grumbles*
i leave for work at 10 am and get home at 6pm im in bed and asleep for 11pm usually.
he will be leaving at 2pm and not getting home till 1am by the time he gets home ill be fast asleep, and by the time i leave for work He'll still be fast asleep...

wed get fridays and saturdays together, but i was kinda hoping id be able to see MORE of him when we moved intogether rather than the other way around!

he just found out today and called me on his lunchbreak, so we'll talk about it tonight, he has no choice in the matter, he either goes willingly and gets to decide his days off or they do it anyway and he either has the choice of doing it and getting whatever days off they have left over or hes fired...*sigh* hes only been there a month and a half and hes good at his job...and aparently its not gonna happen for another month (which would be the perfect timing in terms of screwing me over as thats the planed time for him moving in)

im now rather flustered, weve been together 2 years now...i see him once - twice a week most of the time because he lives an hour away, moving in together was supposed to be the chance to spend more time together and enjoy eachothers company more... and now it looks like moving intogether wont change a thing! *SIGH*

im gonna talk to him about mabe looking for a new job on the sly this month before the time switches... over for him, mabe even one closer, but i dont knwo if he will becasue it doesnt look very good on a resume to quit from a company youve only been with a lil over a month, and this is his first job in 2 years thanks to a severe back injury keeping him out of a job...so hes got nothing to go on in terms of work on the resume...

i guess the only good thing that comes out of this is it means if i can find a part time job i can work every night after closing time at the shop untill closing time of wherever i find a part time job, its not like id be going home to my man anyway!

*grumble*

anyone else have waky scheduals and partners they dont see due to them!?
how do you deal with it?!
I mean heck thus far ive delt with 2 years ive adapted to the fact that when the time comes i get a 3 yr old occasionally out of the deal (hes got a daughter whos not realy his daughter but like his own and the mother allows him to see her when it suits her schedual *rolls eyes*, ive adapted to that and im NOT a kid person, ive adapted to the waky arrangment for the past 2 yrs only seeing him a little...
but i dunno, this is just like one big brick hulred at the windo of my cosy little plan...
you know that one were we spend the evenings sat on the couch watching a good movie, or going out to dinner, or hanging out with friends and still having planty of us alone time...
not to mention the issues gonna be occuring when our sex drives and our sleep patterns decide they want to fight eachother...were both nymphos but by the time he gets home im gonna be out cold, (and do not like to be woken up lol) and by the time im getting up for work hes gonna be out cold and i wont want to wake him because hes got to be at work and driving home till 1am...

this is gonna be...interesting...

sorry folks, nothing to do with anything important, i just needed to vent.
 

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I know just what you feel like but I really dont see my hubby. I start work at 7 am and come home at 2.15pm where as my hubby works form 1.30 till 9.45 so I get to see him every night for an hour. He does have 1-2 days off but it is oftern when I have to work.

Also when my oldest son was born he worked on the rigs and he worked for two weeks and was home for two weeks, I loved it, he hated it.
It used to be hard work but I guess I am used to it now, I know when Jason my youngest has left school (in 2 1/2 yrs) we will both work the days shifts it is just easier with the boys and the chi's this way.
 

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I always joke that I'm single during the week and in a relationship on the weekends. My boyfriend goes to college and works a full time job so Monday-Thursday he's out of the house by 9:45am for school (We see eachother before and after class for like 5 minutes since we don't have the same classes) and then from there he goes straight to work from 1-9:30pm and gets home around 10. He usually stays till about 11:30-12am but he's tired by then lol But on Fridays he works a normal shift from 8:00-4:30pm and he's off Sat and Sunday. I have bad days here and there but I know he has to do it. It would be nice to live together but it's too expensive right now. I just can't wait to graduate and get enough money to afford a place of our own.
 

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i guess its something ill get used to if it has to happen...
Ill still suggest he keep on the lookout for something a little more convenient, but lifes life and if thats how hes gonna make money thats how hes gonna make money, bills come first!
 

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Want my life Foxy lol, I've seen Kevin 9 days in the last month and a half, he returned late Sat night off another trip and left last night for 15 days to Trinidad...so that will be I've seen him 9 days in that last two months come April 6th...but as you know I am use to it now..It's hard some days but you will get into a routine...watch and see.
 

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I actually think that it will not be as bad as you are thinking. You will finally live in the same house. That is a big step. My hubby and I dated for a good 3 1/2 years before he moved in. We would only see eachother on the weekends. When he FINALLY moved in it was about 6 months before our wedding. I worked M-F 11am-7pm. He worked M, W, F, Sa, Su 1-10. We had a bit more time together than you will. But most of that time was spent sleeping. Personally, I think that if we were both on the same schedule we would have been annoying the hack out of eachother. Living together is a big step no matter how long you have been a couple. Being on different schedules means that you still have your "me" time.

As for the whole sex issue, well after the novelty of living together wears off, there goes your sex life. You will find that there are other things that need to be done such as shopping, home repairs, and sleep that become more important. I found that with most people I have talked to, their sex lives were much more "active" when they were not living with their mate.

My husband and I have been married for 2 1/2 years now. I work from home and right now he is unemployed. He used to have a very physical job then he was diagnosed with a heart condition and was forced to quit. We are together ALL DAY EVERYDAY. And trust me, it really is not all that great. You get on eachother's nerves like there is no tomorrow. Actually he lives on a 3rd shift schedule and I on a 1st. Why, I cannot tell you exactly. But the "me" time we both get makes it work.
 

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Aww Im sorry. I know that has to be horrible. I would be upset too. But, it will all work out. Me & my hubby got really lucky. We work at the same place(not in the same building) but we have the same ours. We work 7-4. He is in school too, but he only has like one day class...some semesters he has a night class, but not often. So, it has worked out really good for us. What will be crappy is when he finishes up at the community college and has to go on for 2 more years. We dont know where he will be going yet, so I might not get to see him but on the weekends.
 

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Wait....You mean your suppose to have a sex life once living together lmao...I haven't had one of those since Gizmo moved in lmao..........

Gem, don't worry it will work out, you will find time for each other.
 

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I wish I could contribute some wise words here but I can't. I feel for ya. I know this week being away from home and hubby; has been hard... it always is when I dogsit. I sure cherished those couple hours we had together this afternoon. The one thing I will say is that our time is better quality when we have less of it, so it may be true about absence making the heart grow fonder. And I think you'll find it a fun challenge to make the most of the snippets of time you have together. I know I do. :)
 

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lol, i know it'll work itself out, its just frustrating...

i think im more pissed off about the fact that these people hired him for a certain schedual then alil under 2 months later they turn around and say "well from now on your working 3-midnight...dont like it?! TOUGH, do as we say or find a new job...to me thats insane! they know many of their staff have no choice in reguards to saying yes or no since its an entirely new team of temp hired, they KNOW there not gonna fight back, and if they do...ehh they can just hire more people.

Its insane! in the uk they cant get away with those games...
it just gets me they can screw around with people like that.

schedual wise we'll figure things out. ive given it some thought and we can make arrangments for the better...just means were gonna have some very busy weekends lol.

im a night owl anyway so im sure i can easily re-arrange my body clock... lol.

oh theres already been a demand on his part, (hes not a pet person) he wont complain about my dogs so long as their acess to the bed is limted during certain times lol. So now i get to start teaching dodger and vixie that they have to sleep in THEIR bed when the ramp is not by the bedside lol. thats gonna go over well, especially since dodger can easily jump from the floor onto my bed.

any dogs comming in in the future WILL be crate trained! lol.

lol, oh and Kar, no mention of the sexlife to the parents kk?! im sure they are more than aware my halos a lil tarnished...but i dont need dad raggin on me :p lol.

as my parents say, Chihuahuas the ULTIMATE in birthcontrol lol.
 

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LOL NO FRIGGIN WAY would I mention it to dad...I'd be the closest to him at the time and I can't run fast lmao...Hang in there Gem, it will work out. Your right you can change your body clock to suit your needs..I've done it before lol
Now IF I could only get Gizmo to stay in one of the kids beds lmao.. I would be one happy camper lmao only if it's once in awhile lmao...
(p.s) Your mom mentioned weeks ago that he was moving in, I think they know what would go on once in awhile lmao, your human..they know that. So hang in there and think positive..AND...you will have your own space to boot. lol
 

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That's gotta be frustrating. I can't really relate too much...hubby & I work in the same office, same hours (well, mostly). I think having your own place will help more than you think though. At least you'll still get to sleep next to each other for at least a few hours! And on the weekends you'll probably get to relax more together...it'll just be your house. My husband & I lived with my parents for a while before/right after we were married. Although we had a whole basement to get away, nothing can beat your own place! I'm sure the dogs will get used to no bed access...eventually! If nothing else, just let them nap on the couch for a few hours! :) BTW, how did a chihuahua breeder/pet store owner end up with a non-pet person (or vice versa)?! LOL :D And what's this about the UK not forcing you to work crappy hours?! You mean they actually give you choices in it?! Cool accents and decent work hours...I knew I wanted to visit there for a reason! LOL
 

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while they dont have to give you none crappy work hours, they cannot turn around one day randomly after hiring you for a specific shift and say BTW your working a different shift now dont like it tough...they also have to give you notice that there firing you and a severeance pay if they do can your ass...

howd i end up with him?! RenFaire, its not that hes not a pet person, its just his soon to be ex wife (looooonnnnnggggg story behind that one) has 8 cats, all of which are not only attention whores, but very badly looked after, they crap on the carpets, hairball coughup all over the place and hes the one that gets screamed at for it...
the cats are HERS, he cant bend to clean the litterboxes thanks to said back injury, and the dust agrivates his allergies, he told her when they got the first cat, "I CANT DO LITTERBOXES" to which she said fine, she wanted the cat it was her job, 7 more cats later litterbox cleaning somewhere along there became his job, the cats only use the boxes when they feel like and there a 2 1/2 yr old running round.
everytime he says anything like "we have too many cats" it starts a huge argument and things get thrown at him.
then after all this, she say "i want a fishtank" hes like "I AM NOT CLEANING IT, you want it your job" of course the reply was fine, untill they got the 10 gallon tank with goldfish, now if He doesnt clean it out once a week (which ive tried to explain to her is over cleaning on that tank) he gets yelled at and things thrown at him ect.
so its no wonder hes gone off having pets...

Ive already told him, the dogs are mine, id apreciate it if you se an empty bow you fill it up but i dont expect you to walk them, bathe them, clean up afterthem ect, same with my fishtanks, i hvae abunch of betta tanks and im planning a 55 gal once things are set up. when i told him he whent pale and i made it clear, fishtank maintenence is MY job, i do all the fishtanks in the house, i actually enjoy doing it and have a system down that makes it real quick (and we have a lot of tanks)

Im hoping that by living with my and my pets he'll relax around animals again and re-learn that pets can be nice to have around instead of nothing but problems.

but he's a Renny, more so hes a pirate, and more than that, hes he captain of the ship im a member of the crew...what girl wouldnt put aside the none animal crazy con for the "hes a hot pirate captain" pro.

oh and hes irish...(I know the rebels are rolling in their graves, hes off the boat irish (well a few yrs ago) and im off the boat british lol.)
hes an IRISH PIRATE CAPTAIN! :p
AND he puts up wiht my crazy pet-ness lol

he likes animals, doesnt quite get them like i do cause hes closed up that side lately, i just think his reacent living situation has put him off a lil.
 

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while they dont have to give you none crappy work hours, they cannot turn around one day randomly after hiring you for a specific shift and say BTW your working a different shift now dont like it tough...they also have to give you notice that there firing you and a severeance pay if they do can your ass...
Employee abuse is one reason Americans sue! LOL My hubby has been treated so badly where he works that numerous people tried to get him to sue. He didn't want to. It was his choice. But certainly Ohio state law protected him for what they did. The law was on his side.

But the reality is, he has to work. He's a retired musician and other skills are lacking and he feels as though, and probably rightly so, that he just has to take what's offered.

In most states, unless there is a written employment contract, there are no promises for the state of future employment, and unless it's a union shop, there's not a thing the employee can do but go elsewhere if he doesn't like it. :) I worked some with human resources, and the loop holes in the laws that are supposedly written to "protect the employee", you could drive a truck through so the employer winds up winning anyway. If ya try to fight it, you just get fired.
 

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i find it so scary in this country, at the company my dad works for a woman whos worked there for over 20 yrs turned up for work that morning to find 2 security guards at her desk and a box of her stuff "sorry youve been "let go" (like its some kind of capture and release program) no notice, no phonecall, her boss couldnt even be big enough to go down and tell her face to face...no thank you for your years of loyalty, no nothing just ""youve been let go" from 2 security guards like shes gonna start some riot or something and escorted off premises. they could of at least todl her at the end of the last working day so she could have packed up and left and not wasted the gas goign down there that morning...

it absolutly amazes me that they can do that here...
one of the many reasons i hope the shop continues to pick up enough to keep it together, i NEVER want to work for corporate america, never knowing one morning if your gonna be greeted by a security gurd and escorted of premises
 

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i find it so scary in this country, at the company my dad works for a woman whos worked there for over 20 yrs turned up for work that morning to find 2 security guards at her desk and a box of her stuff "sorry youve been "let go" (like its some kind of capture and release program) no notice, no phonecall, her boss couldnt even be big enough to go down and tell her face to face...no thank you for your years of loyalty, no nothing just ""youve been let go" from 2 security guards like shes gonna start some riot or something and escorted off premises. they could of at least todl her at the end of the last working day so she could have packed up and left and not wasted the gas goign down there that morning...

it absolutly amazes me that they can do that here...
one of the many reasons i hope the shop continues to pick up enough to keep it together, i NEVER want to work for corporate america, never knowing one morning if your gonna be greeted by a security gurd and escorted of premises
This happened to my boss at a company I worked for. The company changed the locks and everything before he came in that morning. I do know that in this case there were true security risks. There were dangers involved had the employee been given advance notice of being let go. It was pretty creepy. I'm 57 and I've only ever seen that one time. There had to be something there that the bulk of the employees didn't know, for that to happen. That truly is not a real common occurance.
 

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thats what i thought the first time it heppend, but this far since movign to the us, the 2 companies my dad has worked for its happend both places multiple times. i think they just have security there so the person doesnt make anykind of fuss...its just insane they dont have to give you notice...

my frined mat just got laid off from his job, he got there that morning, sat at his desk, 5 minutes later his supervisor came over with a security guard and said "sorry youve been laid off"
luckily he qualifies for unemployment but it works out the equavalent of making $3 an hour...luckily his g/f has an ok job (at the same place my guy is at shes in a different group though so i think her hours are staying the same as they are) but even with that and a 3rd roomate chipping in there bills are tight

Mabe its just CT, its insane round here!
 

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Yeah, I've heard of that happening, not too often though. At the company I work for & the one previous to it, they usually give you written notices. So, some people may complain that they just got fired out of the blue, but really after 3 months of verbal, written & final warnings, you've gotta know that its coming!

I can see why your boyfriend isn't too crazy about animals! I'm sure, like you said, he'll come around! How could you not with cuties like Dodger & Vixie?! :) My husband doesn't really like cats. He thinks they just poop & pee everywhere & stink. Can be the case, but doesn't need to be! Oh, and he's afraid of fish (yes, afraid!). But he's coming around...he's letting me get a salt water tank soon! For some reason, if the fish looks like its glowing, its okay! Regular ones are evil though! lol

Maybe your boyfriend could at least put a resume together & get it out there...it wouldn't hurt to at least try. The worst that could happen is that no one else hires him right now, which wouldn't be different than not looking. At least then too, you might feel better knowing that he did try, but it just won't work right now. And you'll still have all weekend to hang out at your OWN place! :)
 
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