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.. I have almost given up with Sera and new people. Its not that she doesn't like people in general.. She loves to see my mom, wags her tail crazy and gives her tones of kisses, same with my dad, but took a bit longer. she also knows Justin, loves him, and is getting to know Natalie a bit better and isnt as scared, although she prefers to sit in my lap instead of hers (if shes with justin, my dad, mom, she doesnt care) I think shes just scared when people come up to her and start to pet her, she back down and trys to get as far as possible away, and then.. if there fingures are there for a while she'll bite 'em, no one has said that it hurts but i hope its only cuz shes protecting me. When shes in some one elses arms - that she doesnt know, she'll squirm. I dont think shes ever biten someone when in there arms.. not that ive noticed. I've tried the treats, for people to give them to her, it didnt do much. I really need her to have people holding her and i vanish, but its a little hard to do that if i am in a store with her and hand her to complete strangers (we dont have that many visitors.. well my mom teaches piano and students come to the house... but many dont take interest in her.. or dont know how to handle the squirmyness) Any suggestion?? I'm at my wits end! :(
 

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Hi Wendy, I really dont know what to tell you. Poppy and Sera are exactly the same age and I did alot of the socialising with her..taking her everywhere and introducing her to all kinds of different people. I have almost the opposite problem, she is too friendly! She will go off with anyone...I dont know which is worse! You did everything right..perhaps Sera is just maybe ultra protective of you, or maybe she is just nervous? I think they nip fingers to try to make people stop touching them..Poppy does it too, but not to hurt, rather than to fend people off that she doesnt want to touch her, like when she gets sick of my kids petting her all the time.
I hope someone can give you some advice... :wave:
 

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Please don't give up! If you quit socializing her, she will continue to dislike strangers. I think maybe you have your goals set too high for right now. Start with just focusing on introducing her to new environments and having new people around her. Then work up to having people acknowledge her (get near her face, speak to her, etc.) then move on to people petting her, and finally holding her.

She may never be an outgoing, friendly dog...but you should continue to socialize her so she is less likely to be stressed everytime her little world changes by being in a new place or seeing new people.

She is still a pup so you may be surprised how much difference continued socialization will make!

Good luck!
 

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Gosh please don't give up!! What about my baby? He is 4 months old and I just got him, there is no way he has been overy socialized and so I do bring him places that I can bring him, and I always tell people to just go and pick him up (when they come over). I can see Chico get nervous, but I keep talking to him in that "baby" voice we give our chi's (you know you all do!), but I just keep talking to him while others are picking him up and then I slowly stop. I think this helps. I understand though if you don't have much company. Maybe now would be a good time for Puppy Obedience school, this helps w/socialization w/other people and dogs. :D
 

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Auggie loves other people and will prance up to everyone happy and tail wagging but he does NOT like to be picked up by other people so I don't think he every will. I'm ok with this since he is so friendly and I don't really care if he does not want to be picked up. If someone is in the house and setting on the counch he will go up to them or get on them but not outside. I have always used that baby voice when he sees someone and say '' whose that " in my most baby gooey voice. I don't know if that has had any effect on the way he seems to happily greet people or not. :roll:
 

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When you hand her to someone, always hand the "back end" first. The pup knows it's OK to relax and not "guard". Also, you want her to be social but not to allow others to pick her up. (Sometimes people just don't know how to hold our babies.) I would probably hold her and allow others to pet but not to hold her.
 

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Latenight, very good point about the way to hand them to someone else. I do this w/ Mikey at the vet, before if I would try to hand face 1st, so to speak, he would growl and snap but handing him back side 1st he doesn't do it.
Sillymom, what do you mean, I never talk to my dogs in that annoying way ..no no not me ..never ever... :lol: :lol: :lol: o.k. I do it so much my husband thinks I'm nuts :oops: and I think the cats think so too. But the doggies seem to like it :D
 

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That is a great idea about how to give her to others backwards. I will try that. :) As far as letting others hold her, I wouldn't let just anyone, I guess I should be more careful w/my words. I let adults who are talking to her and who I feel comfortable with hold her, but if I get a bad feeling or my chi is completey upset w/it, then of course I wouldn't. I really meant adults who are here at my house and I know, but people always approach me when we are out w/them and I actually encourage it so the pups know other people are ok. Lola is not afraid at all she is used to being around different people, but I can see Chico gets a little nervous, but always warms up and wants to play. But don't forget about the obedience classes, I really think this will help w/socialization too.
 

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Chiquita just doesn't like strangers... she barks and puts up a fuss about it all... she likes members of my family that she knows, but as far as taking her to Petsmart, forget it... she just hates it, she will back away from anyone trying to pet her.... I believe that some dogs are just that way... no matter how hard you try to socialize them. José likes to get attention... he licked the vet tech the last time he was at the vet... so they all like him... but Chiquita will bite.
 

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joebeans said:
Chiquita just doesn't like strangers... she barks and puts up a fuss about it all... she likes members of my family that she knows, but as far as taking her to Petsmart, forget it... she just hates it, she will back away from anyone trying to pet her.... I believe that some dogs are just that way... no matter how hard you try to socialize them. José likes to get attention... he licked the vet tech the last time he was at the vet... so they all like him... but Chiquita will bite.
Yeah, thats what im sorta leaning to.. I think shes jus going to be that kinda dog no matter what i do. :(

ALTHOUGh, good idea of handing her back to someone first .. Ill try that too.. Thanks everyone for the suggestions! Ill keep trying!
 

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I agree with Joebeans, I think dogs are like people and some just aren't that social. Since she is so young, you should still try though. I think obedience classes is a great idea, that way she'll be exposed to a new environment with lots of new people and dogs.

Great idea latenight, it really makes sense! :wink:
 

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Silly Mom, I wasn't criticizing...

I know you are a responsible Chi person. (I won't say "owner" because sometimes I feel they own us, not us them!)

We can socialize our Chi's, teach them to respond in the right way (not snapping, etc.) but they might still be leery/scared of some people or some places. For instance, Dobbie has mixed feelings about PetSmart. He knows it is an outing (which he enjoys) but all the dogs and people make him a little scared. While we're there, I push the cart with one hand and keep rubbing his back with the other, lol.
 

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Oh I know that!! Even when I reread my post, it sounded like I just give them to anyone!! I admit I type very fast and sometimes don't give enough thought to what I an typing!! :wink: Honestly, I didn't think you were critisizing at all!! :D I really love your idea about giving them to others backwards though, I can't believe I never thought of that!!
 
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