[theshanman97]

HELP?! my training has stopped working! tillie goes on pads easily but pippi cant/wont! i want to go back to out door training but my fear of going outside always pops up! i dont have the money to buy big pads ect. and tbh i dont have the money to buy ANYTHING atm as tillies being spayed on thursday! any tips? i will do ANYTHING as im going to be getting a puppy at any point and i know they can/will go out i just need to work on ME being able to do it! my depression is improving and im getting there but i need something to PUSH me! anything please! support,help,advice,hate,complaints ect. just anything just typw it!

 

[KrystalLeigh]

I know that jesuschick uses washable pads. I highly suggest you get your butt outdoors, but if it's not a possibility right now, washable pads might be the most economical answer. Do you have a yard? Are there birds in your area? Just wondering if you could make some kind of outdoor enclosure for them so they could at least go out to do their business, even if you're not with them.

 

[KritterMom]

I hope your taking Vit D. I have to take it since I don't go outside much. Try to remember the animals need sunlight as much as we humans do. Attach a lead very close to the door, that way you can let her out but you dont have to step out. Hugs I know how depression is. Hugs!

 

[theshanman97]

I know that jesuschick uses washable pads. I highly suggest you get your butt outdoors, but if it's not a possibility right now, washable pads might be the most economical answer. Do you have a yard? Are there birds in your area? Just wondering if you could make some kind of outdoor enclosure for them so they could at least go out to do their business, even if you're not with them.

i do have a garden but its like down steps (next to a road) , through a gate and now through a path thing lol so they cant really go out on their own but im going to try get out! and yeah we do but like sea guls and black birds LOL x

I hope your taking Vit D. I have to take it since I don't go outside much. Try to remember the animals need sunlight as much as we humans do. Attach a lead very close to the door, that way you can let her out but you dont have to step out. Hugs I know how depression is. Hugs!

no im not i didnt even know that was a problem! :O also i wish i could but like i said above the garden is hidden away so i would be able to do that but im going to try get out! and thank you x

 

[KritterMom]

Yeah my therapist, primary doctor and head med doc (as I call him) recommend Vit D it also helps with depression and it helps to give you the vitimin D you don't get from the sun. I'm very light skinned so my primary doesn't want me in direct sunlight a lot. I don't know if your on meds but i also recommend calcuim because some meds can do something I can't remember what with bones and the calcuim in them.

Yes some days I feel like a pill popper, but my meds help me (took a long time to get tha through my head, lol.)

Even if its sitting on the steps thats getting out, think small steps and work from there. This is the first summer since I was pregnant that I've been outside the most by myself (when hubby is at work and the kid gone for the day.) Not sure what kind of depression you have, but I have major depression, anxiety, and PPMD (yeah the B sister to PMS.)

You'll get out it just takes time.

 

[theshanman97]

Yeah my therapist, primary doctor and head med doc (as I call him) recommend Vit D it also helps with depression and it helps to give you the vitimin D you don't get from the sun. I'm very light skinned so my primary doesn't want me in direct sunlight a lot. I don't know if your on meds but i also recommend calcuim because some meds can do something I can't remember what with bones and the calcuim in them.

Yes some days I feel like a pill popper, but my meds help me (took a long time to get tha through my head, lol.)

Even if its sitting on the steps thats getting out, think small steps and work from there. This is the first summer since I was pregnant that I've been outside the most by myself (when hubby is at work and the kid gone for the day.) Not sure what kind of depression you have, but I have major depression, anxiety, and PPMD (yeah the B sister to PMS.)

You'll get out it just takes time.

i seriously didn't know that! :O and no i'm not on any meds I've been refused as they are saying its because of the "Situation im in" a.k.a not going to school BUT I've been like this for years they are meant to be getting me consoling but so far that's come to no avail! lol x

 

[KritterMom]

Its okay I'm finding out as I go along. Vit also helps with depression too. Always here if you need to chat.

 

[theshanman97]

Its okay I'm finding out as I go along. Vit also helps with depression too. Always here if you need to chat.

thank you so much! i need the support right now as non of my family know (Except my mum) ad all the social services ,school ect. refuse to believe the way im feeling and call me a "Lier" x

 

[Lazuliblue]

thank you so much! i need the support right now as non of my family know (Except my mum) ad all the social services ,school ect. refuse to believe the way im feeling and call me a "Lier" x

Shannon, I've suffered with physical and mental health problems since I was 10, and the whole way through the only people that truly believed me were my immediate family, so I know how you feel. When I had to miss school I would get called a skiver, and told there was nothing wrong with me. Now I know that had I never gone to school in the first place I would be a lot less ill than I am now!

And the mental health system in England in my experience has been absolutely useless! The waiting lists are so long, appointments take forever to come through!

Just thought I'd let you know you're not alone and we're here for you (even if it is via a chihuahua forum!)

 

[theshanman97]

Shannon, I've suffered with physical and mental health problems since I was 10, and the whole way through the only people that truly believed me were my immediate family, so I know how you feel. When I had to miss school I would get called a skiver, and told there was nothing wrong with me. Now I know that had I never gone to school in the first place I would be a lot less ill than I am now!

And the mental health system in England in my experience has been absolutely useless! The waiting lists are so long, appointments take forever to come through!

Just thought I'd let you know you're not alone and we're here for you (even if it is via a chihuahua forum!)

thank you so much! what you have JUST said is the same as me! lol school has made me VERY ill x

 

[SugarChi]

I kno it's not exactly the same thing but I had post natal depression and oh my God did pills help me lol! honestly they made life sooo much better for me, they really worked, I love my pills lol.

I don't kno wat ur situation is but it's a shame ur not getting more help, and I'm surprised they won't give u meds as I know that's all my docs kno how to do, print prescriptions! If there's no meds for it they haven't a clue wat to do!

Good luck and do try ur hardest to make ur self go out, sunshine and walks with the dogs could really help u

 

[LittleGemma]

I suffer from anxiety and it really sets off when new things and changes are happening in my life. The first few days we had Gemma, I was crying many times per day because I was having such major anxiety and small panic attacks. Now Gemma only brings me joy and that first week of anxiety was well worth the happiness she brings me now. I know how mental illnesses can feel and it's so important that you have someone who believes you and supports you to help you on the road to recovery. My boyfriend is very understanding of my anxiety and he helps me whenever it flares up. I have also always suffered from social anxiety, but my boyfriend has really helped me clear that up so much over the past year by getting me out more and meeting new people. Let me tell you, it feels so good being able to step out in social situations from time to time now without that intense feeling of fear inside me. I've been hiding away all my life and now at 21, I am just starting to come out of my shell.

It's so hard taking the first step, but believe me Shannon, there is a light at the end of the tunnel and you will feel so much better once you reach it. You need to get outside. You're probably going to feel fear and worry at first, but gradually, you will get through it and those feelings will lessen with each day that you try. The final result will be well worth it when you can enjoy the beautiful world outside of your house with Tillie. You have to keep thinking about that while you're trying.

 

[theshanman97]

I kno it's not exactly the same thing but I had post natal depression and oh my God did pills help me lol! honestly they made life sooo much better for me, they really worked, I love my pills lol.

I don't kno wat ur situation is but it's a shame ur not getting more help, and I'm surprised they won't give u meds as I know that's all my docs kno how to do, print prescriptions! If there's no meds for it they haven't a clue wat to do!

Good luck and do try ur hardest to make ur self go out, sunshine and walks with the dogs could really help u

I suffer from anxiety and it really sets off when new things and changes are happening in my life. The first few days we had Gemma, I was crying many times per day because I was having such major anxiety and small panic attacks. Now Gemma only brings me joy and that first week of anxiety was well worth the happiness she brings me now. I know how mental illnesses can feel and it's so important that you have someone who believes you and supports you to help you on the road to recovery. My boyfriend is very understanding of my anxiety and he helps me whenever it flares up. I have also always suffered from social anxiety, but my boyfriend has really helped me clear that up so much over the past year by getting me out more and meeting new people. Let me tell you, it feels so good being able to step out in social situations from time to time now without that intense feeling of fear inside me. I've been hiding away all my life and now at 21, I am just starting to come out of my shell.

It's so hard taking the first step, but believe me Shannon, there is a light at the end of the tunnel and you will feel so much better once you reach it. You need to get outside. You're probably going to feel fear and worry at first, but gradually, you will get through it and those feelings will lessen with each day that you try. The final result will be well worth it when you can enjoy the beautiful world outside of your house with Tillie. You have to keep thinking about that while you're trying.

thanks to both of you! Im going to get out today and do it! spesh as im going to have another little friend soon......... x

 

[pupluv168]

I too deal with depression and anxiety. It has been a daily struggle since I was about 11. With therapy and anti-anxiety meds, I've been able to overcome many of my problems. My depression is often situational so it's a bit different- when I don't live at home I am much less depressed. My sister and mother have bipolar disorder which is hard for me to deal wih. Moving away in August will hopefully make me feel a bit better. The anxiety, on the other hand, is much more debilitating. Only meds and therapy have helped me and it is a constant struggle. I understand you completely. One of the things that helps me is knowing that I have to get out of bed, walk, etc because of Toby. He's helped me do much. If you need to talk, I'm here. We should start a support thread- it seems that there are quite a few of us struggling with hear issues.

 

[LBChi]

Im sorry you are feeling so bad Shannon, I suffer from anxiety and depression also. I am on meds. I know that the best thing you can do is exersize, I know its hard, but once you get started it get alot easier. My pups need it so I force myself to go. I hope things get better for you soon. You can PM me anytime if you want to talk. Hugs to you

 

[theshanman97]

I too deal with depression and anxiety. It has been a daily struggle since I was about 11. With therapy and anti-anxiety meds, I've been able to overcome many of my problems. My depression is often situational so it's a bit different- when I don't live at home I am much less depressed. My sister and mother have bipolar disorder which is hard for me to deal wih. Moving away in August will hopefully make me feel a bit better. The anxiety, on the other hand, is much more debilitating. Only meds and therapy have helped me and it is a constant struggle. I understand you completely. One of the things that helps me is knowing that I have to get out of bed, walk, etc because of Toby. He's helped me do much. If you need to talk, I'm here. We should start a support thread- it seems that there are quite a few of us struggling with hear issues.

OMG thats an amazing idea! lets try set it up! XD and thank you x

Im sorry you are feeling so bad Shannon, I suffer from anxiety and depression also. I am on meds. I know that the best thing you can do is exersize, I know its hard, but once you get started it get alot easier. My pups need it so I force myself to go. I hope things get better for you soon. You can PM me anytime if you want to talk. Hugs to you

thank you x

 

[Lazuliblue]

I've been hiding away all my life and now at 21, I am just starting to come out of my shell.

I'm 21 too! Sorry, just had to share 22 in August though....wow, I'm getting old :O

 

[Lazuliblue]

I too deal with depression and anxiety. It has been a daily struggle since I was about 11. With therapy and anti-anxiety meds, I've been able to overcome many of my problems. My depression is often situational so it's a bit different- when I don't live at home I am much less depressed. My sister and mother have bipolar disorder which is hard for me to deal wih. Moving away in August will hopefully make me feel a bit better. The anxiety, on the other hand, is much more debilitating. Only meds and therapy have helped me and it is a constant struggle. I understand you completely. One of the things that helps me is knowing that I have to get out of bed, walk, etc because of Toby. He's helped me do much. If you need to talk, I'm here. We should start a support thread- it seems that there are quite a few of us struggling with hear issues.

Apologies for the double post, but I hadn't read this part, and it sounds like a really good idea!

 

[theshanman97]

We seriously should set that up! x

 

[KritterMom]

That does sound like a good idea.